tips for overcoming that awkward approach

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well ive overcome more than most when it comes to my autism/aspergers syndrome, But i still cant seem to overcome talking to a girl i find attractive in public when im at a local bands show or at a local car meet. Any tips on what i should do to help overcome it? i always get wayyy to nervous and always hope that they initiate the conversation and approach me but we all know that never happens lol

No man on earth can survive with a balanced approach to women. I love my lady no matter what she says or does and she's still getting used to it. Generally speaking you either have to find a conversation topic that's not about either of you or *sigh* use your eyes. With autism our expressions rarely line up with what people expect, so we need to trust that this fact will help us stand out.

i guess thats probably the best response and tip, thanks. And yeah people definitely notice me by how i stand out lol

It's about creating all the friction one can whilst simeltaneously ignoring the effect.

What you need is a talking... piece. Try this http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-26480358 something like that would serve nicely I imagine.

Seriously though the best way as has been said too many times is to be natural. My mum was telling me how people "smell fear" apparently its a sixth sense that they have. Im not sure about that but I do know that a girl will detect signs of awkwardness. The best approach is not to focus on rejection or success and especially not to focus on the end you want. One guy I spoke to said that he treats all girls like friends regardless of attraction. This is probably a reasonably effective way to prevent that tongue tangling awkwardness.