Wishing I could find an understanding woman in east KY...

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Had a very close bout with suicide only days ago, and would LOVE to not feel so alone and isolated.
Are the any single Aspie women on WP who would talk to me?

Okay. Is it necessary to point out how misconceived this whole thread is?

Hey, I'm sorry you're not feeling well.

You need to be first and foremost trying to get well. If you're having suicidal ideation you need to get help asap. Even if you feel you're not likely to 'do anything' - it's a strong signal that all is not well and you need some help coping with life. This could be therapy (think of it as coaching - I do, that's what helps me, since I don't particularly agree with psychoanalysis point of view) or it could be medication to help you deal with a chemical imbalance - or both.

What probably wouldn't help right now is looking for a mate. To get a good mate, you need to be a good mate or well on your way.

If it's socialising you need, then I'd focus on pursuing interests you have that you can share with others in person - even if on a limited basis. I know that with depression (I'm assuming that's what's going on given the suicidal thoughts) it's hard to find joy even in things you like doing.

I don't know Eastern KY, but I do know that there were hiking groups in Eastern TN, where I spent a big part of my life. It may not be your thing, but for me being outside is great for my mental health and with a walking group you can surge ahead, lag back, or sit down for a 'rest' if you're finding company overwhelming or you end up with someone you don't like!

Great, my first reply is some SOB from the UK who is MALE! (Go bother someone else, Freako!)

My next reply is from a woman who is NT, and can't understand my Aspie mindset.

Isn't there a good KY Aspie woman on WP?

and here's an AS woman, telling you the same thing the NT woman and the AS man did--if you're suicidal, you don't need a girlfriend, you need help. i hope you find a good doctor or counselor to talk to, because good psychiatric care when you are suffering from depression can really improve the quality of your life. this is coming from someone who has been both clinically depressed and suicidal in the past.

Before you can have a healthy relationship with someone you need to deal with the depression.You could get really attached to someone and then if it doesn't work out you will be in worse shape than before.I know depression very well,we have been well acquainted for years.

First of all, bashing other people won't get you anywhere as it's frowned upon here. Second, you're not taking others' advice seriously. You don't need a girlfriend, you need help and treatment. You need to admit you have a problem and seek treatment for your depression. Help is available and a girlfriend won't help get you there, you need a professional. They will get you on a treatment plan and with time, you will feel better with yourself. Do something you like, it's better than being upset with yourself all the time.

I may not be able to fully comprehend the Aspie mindset, but I do know a thing or two about depression and loneliness.