Girls say the like me but not 'in that way?'

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It seems in the past and present when I go to bars or house parties some girls (who like me) will approach me and say I am good looking, cute and how nice of a person I am. Also a lot of the time they are drunk she they flirt with me

But when it comes to them wanting to get intimate or have sex with me girls a lot of the time there just not into me 'in that way'. Could it be because of my disability (autism) perhaps?


I am just about 5ft8 and workout on my body since I weigh 151 pounds of lean muscle. I mean is height really that important if you already have a toned body? My face is quite handsome but it's not perfect like a supermodel face either.

No and No.

Once again no height is not that important, and it might be a good idea to quit hyper focusing on it as it's obviously destroying any self confidence you might have. And no it's not just because you're on the autism spectrum...how would they know that anyways? Perhaps you seem ridged and uptight which makes it hard for them to see you as a potentially intimate being if that's what you're constantly thinking about yourself.

Also while height still isn't that important, 5'8" isn't even short I mean how tall do you think most people are?

id have to agree with Sweetleaf on this.

I hope you don't talk about getting intimate with girls right there in the bar.

Well, the crappy social skills that come with autism is a big turn-off for most girls who read into every single nuance in your face and body, and you tend to give the wrong impression to them, even though you're just being your natural self.

5 feet 8 inches is a nice average height. I don't see why that would turn people off.

Last edited by saxgeek on 14 Aug 2016, 3:18 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Don't forget that 5'8" is really tall to some of us. I feel uncomfortable around people over 5'6".

Why is crappy social skills not so much of a turn off if your a girl with autism?

They can understand and relate to those struggles better.

It could be. It could also be because they don't go sleeping with every guy that wants it?

Seems you have quite a sense of entitlement going on.

I wouldn't nesscessarly say I have a sense of entitlement but sometimes I see other guys get physical with girls in bars and everyday life for that matter. I am just curious to learn more things.


Oh and just to mention the average height for people in my age range is 5ft10 but 5ft9 for the population as a whole in England. Overall for my generation iam short at a good 2 inches under average since I am 5ft7 3/4 if you want me to be exactly precise. Most people who go to the bar I attend are in the young crowd so I am small amongst them.

Funny incident happened at the bar actually a few weeks ago when a girl who must have been no more than 4ft11 rested her head on a guy who was 6ft6. The 6ft6 fella is usually the tallest man in the bar but I have seen the occasional 6ft7 guy.

I was in nightclub on Valentine's Day 2014 and this girl and her friend came up to me. They started touching my face and one of them said "my friend really fancies you do you want to dance with her". I just then Stood there looking shy and awkward and they moved on quickly.

That's probably the last time a girl has hinted they fancied me and dare I say it could be the last time?

Alright well that explains better why you think you're short....I don't think most people in the U.S average that sort of height. To me 5' 8" is in the rather tall range based on height of people around me but if people are averaging a taller height where you live makes a bit more sense. But even if you are statistically short for your age group that doesn't mean you're doomed to never be attractive to anyone I don't think so still think such heavy focus on it is detrimental to your situation.

Well they probably took it as you not being interested, so figured it would be best to move on. Doesn't have to be the last time, just next time try to engage with the situation more next time. At least that is if you're interested in doing so, but if you stand there and say nothing(even if your feelings are anxious and shy and it's not that you're not interested) people can certainly take it that way. I mean I have been told I can be hard to approach because I come off as not wanting an interaction when in my head I want nothing more than one.

Girls often assume just because a guy is shy he is not interested cause of lack of eye contact etc.....

well if a guy literally just stands there with no reaction to someone expressing interest, people are going to assume he is not interested. They cannot see what's going on in your thought process, and a lot of times people do just ignore approaches or people they don't want to interact with till they leave...so how are they supposed to know it's out of shyness or disinterest?

It's a massive turn off.

Something is missing here. It seems you got people who are coming up to you so that tells me you have people interested. Where it goes wrong it seems from what you're telling me is after people get to know you?

Height can be a factor for some women. You're not that short but you just below average. From what you're telling me things go wrong after they speak with you perhaps what you need is a wingman someone to seal the deal for you but perhaps a friend who can provide you some insight on how you f****d up when you f**k up.




You'd think so but let's be honest if your a fat guy or girl and can't stand fat chicks or men you're not going to just get with fat people cause your fat. People have their preferences. I mean I can relate to people with a disability or autism but it doesn't mean I want to f**k them or deal with their s**t. Same with them to me.