Is love a euphemism for an orgasm?

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Sometimes, I wonder... initially it's always about sexual attraction, but is it merely a delusion to believe that there's fundamentally more than that, if ultimately nature is simply taking its course, and just as planets happen to revolve around each other living beings similarly fulfill this innate urge?

I am, of course, basing this off subjective experiences... how perceptions can end up totally differing, at the very least... and although 'love' as a concept had always lingered around in the end it frittered into nothingness...

The idea of a soulmate... is it like a delusion of the mirrored ego? Perhaps, when the very essence of our ego changes we lose that connection?

Don't asexual romantic relationships contradict this theory of love just being a delusion beyond the sexual attraction?

Love is genuinely caring about someone and demonstrating that you care for that person. (Well that's my definition of love). The type of love I would like to experience is the love of an old married couple--two people who have been together for decades and are well past childbearing years. They genuinely care for each other and are like best friends. When the sexual attraction leads to a deep friendship that outlasts the sexual attraction, you have love. It is much, much more than an orgasm. What about women whose partners can't make them orgasm but they are still with their partners?

Absolutely not. Sex and orgasm are primitive things aimed at reproduction. Love and attachment evolved so we would stay together and bring up children. They have nothing whatsoever in common. I think many people that claim things like that are referring to the strange connection between sex and attachment in neurotypicals, but this doesn't exist in many neurodiverse people. Thus, for many neurodiverse people, sex is not a requirement for love and attachment. Some call themselves asexual, but asexual really is a misnomer for disliking the neurotypical bonding process.

No. They might start off as the same thing-- a wild and well-nigh ungovernable passion-- but love and orgasm are not the same thing. Neither are love and lust.

Lust is the desire to have-- it is that animal thing that makes you want to get hold of someone and crawl inside their skin.

Orgasm is, well, orgasm. It's a physiological reaction to stimulation. It releases hormones and engenders emotions that can, I suppose, be confused with love (which is why I argue that people should keep their pants up until they're already in a committed relationship with someone they know well), but it isn't the same thing.

Love is both deeply desiring someone's company, and trusting them as totally as one human being can trust another...

...and also caring more for them than one cares for oneself. It is not merely the ability to force oneself to put the other first, but the actual desire to do so (at least a fair bit of the time-- no one since Jesus has been totally selfless, and I wonder about Him sometimes).

I can see where life can make one cynical enough to equate love and orgasm, but no, they are not the same animal.

They are different things but work together. Sexual desire is kind of like another "layer" of liking on top of love/friendship.

No, it isn't.