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I love how one-sided this is. He broke up with me because I would not offer to drop out of school for him. He told me I wasn`t allowed to go to school.

As for everything else, he leaves out his marijuana problems that I asked for advice so I could help him. That`s why he broke up with me in march, btw, cause I was trying to get him to stop smoking pot frequently, not only because he was hurting himself, but was basically ignoring me. Yes, the cutting was a problem, but I am an aspie as well and my emotions are intense.

And I only got upset because I was being LIED TO and given false hope. Plus, a 2 year relationship and he gets another gf in a week. And he puts ME down for being upset. Anyway, just had to clear that up

Yes, school is important and sad as it is, you made the right decision to stay in school. I also don't see how it would be possible to be friends with someone who just broke up with. It needs time for all the hurt feelings to mend and that could take months or years and you mightn't ever want to be friends with him any more.

I would want to be told, and have been in situations where I BEGGED to be told the truth, quite literally, and was still lied to. It is horrible for someone to pretend there is nothing going on, keeps taking me back or keeps talking to me, etc. If I am having trouble getting over someone, the last thing I need is for them to be kind just so they won't feel bad.

It may sound brutal to an extent, but personally, I would tell her. Whether or not you guys stay friends after that is up to you 2, but she does need to know now so that it doesn't hinder that. Would you really want to be friends with someone who didn't tell you honestly what was going on when it was going on? I wouldn't be able to find a ton of trust I don't think after that, and would probably take a lot of what they said very lightly. Is there a chance that if you put it off that she might find out for herself before you have a chance to tell her? Do you guys have mutual friends with whom she is still speaking with?

If so, it might come out that way, and somehow I think it would hurt a lot more to find out for yourself and feel betrayed to some degree rather than being told right out. It would possibly help her get over you as well.

If she's upset and sitting around thinking you are single still, then that generally means there might still be a shot at it. If she is upset and knows you are with someone else, she might go the other direction and just get really ticked off, or she might plummet further into depression, but I'd bet it'd be quicker for her to get over it if she just knew. Just be prepared, the emotional tie to telling her could be rough, but overall I think it would be better for her.

Just my opinion.

I'm the girl he's talking about, btw ^^ that post I made before was in reference to what he said in the original. Oh, and by the way, he calls ME every day, not the other way around. And he lies to the new girl about it ^_^

And he didn't tell me, instead he posted it 1) Here, which he knows I look at all the time and 2) ALL over his myspace. If he wasn't planning on telling me, I would think he'd at least keep it a secret.

Yeah, I love school, so I'm glad I chose it...in the long run, it was an experience I really needed. I'm sorry if my other post was a bit rough to him as well, I was angry because it didn't tell the whole story, about all the ultimatums and addiction and stuff. How was I not supposed to be upset when I got a call with all his "friends" cursing me out and tormenting me, and then having him go along with it, and ESPECIALLY when he was/is hurting himself with the pot?

Oh well,

Sounds like you got a winner then.
I always pick dishonesty as a virtue.

Yeah, winner of the prize prat award.

Why is this good thing? I think you are naive to think that that is going to put you on a firm footing. Personally I would break it off with him for now. Especially if you think he is worth it in the long term. I don't think you both have the same priorities.

Oh, I actually meant the smiley faces to be kind of a sarcasm thing, but I'm REALLY bad at that sort of thing, so I apologize ^^

WTF?



IM A BOI NOT A GRL

im kristian not kristin

scary

You sound like you just realised

We have some people with gender issues
here - it should all be fine.