tired of an NT relationship, the ASPIE just got it

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So for years I have tried to lead an NT life with an NT spouse?but I just don't think it works. The one and only person whom I felt 100% comfortable with, whom I felt really had my back and understood me, without a doubt is an ASPIE (he just doesn't know it). How about you? Have you had both NT and ASPIE or even HFA relationships and NT? Do you notice a difference? I am 43 and truly just worn out of trying to do the NT thing. This one ASPIE guy just got it, understood me, etc. This NT guy is about what everyone else thinks, going with the flow, life is good, blah, blah, blah?Not sure how much longer I can deal with it.

I haven't ever had a relationship before, though I've had two friends with benifits/slightly-more-than-just-hookups, so I do not have any generalizable data
One was NT, one was aspie

What I liked about my NT parter:
-He was more spontaneous and cheerful
-Could make me laugh a lot more/better sense of humor
-Was more of a gentleman and loyal: he by himself proposed to ride me back home if it was dark
-A lot less rigid and more flexible: if I was at his place I could watch whatever I wanted, I could touch whatever I wanted, etc. If I disagreed with him on a certain topic, he wouldn't debate me to death or continue to nag.
-He had better manners (Has to do with previous point): he would not burp or fart when I was at his place out of respect for me
-Took better physical care of himself
-Was better in bed ( )

What I liked about my aspie partner:
-I felt like I could ALWAYS be myself around him; what an enlightenment
-I never worried that he would find something about me weird or stupid
-I could rely on him: if he said that he was going to be there at a certain time, he was ON POINT
-Perhaps suprisingly, he could comfort and support me almost just as good as the NT boy