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09 Nov 2014, 3:13 am

Well, I know my unrequited love will never end, and will never be returned (kinda hard when the guy lives over a thousand kilometres away), so I've decided that instead of getting married and having babies I will finish my book, get quite wealthy and own a mansion which I will open up to uni students who have to move far away from home to get an education and cure my cluckiness that way (although I'm sure students will start to avoid my lodgings once they realise I'm going to mother them lol).

Anyway, I know a lot of you are in the same boat as I, loveless and lonely, so I thought it'd be a good idea for us to think of things we can do with ourselves that we don't need a significant other for. Good things that will make society better and perhaps make it easier for the next generation of aspies and auties by showing the world how good we are.

Focusing on my new dream isn't quite curing me of my lovelornity, but it does help so wanted to see if by sharing it with you guys I might be able to help.

Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to go and cry into my stuffed toys. :cry:

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09 Nov 2014, 3:24 am

I have gotten a degree and built a career based on helping people. I moved out on my own recently, so I am currently learning to cook and take care of an apartment. It is a fun challenge. I am not dating anyone but I continue to work on being the best person I can be and try to be open to a relationship if the opportunity arises. I hope to get back into music soon. I know how to play the keyboards and want to learn how to play guitar. Making an album is one of the things I want to do before I die. Playing in a band is another thing I want to do. My goals keep me busy.

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09 Nov 2014, 4:07 am

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Screw this narrow-minded society. But I understand you - I try to help those who I am sympathetic to. Not surprisingly that they also hate this society and this is perfect base for some organization.

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09 Nov 2014, 6:04 am

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Screw this narrow-minded society. But I understand you - I try to help those who I am sympathetic to. Not surprisingly that they also hate this society and this is perfect base for some organization.

Not all of society is narrow-minded, in fact most people I come across are very open-minded and kind. We're all just trying to do the best we can.

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09 Nov 2014, 6:53 am

Kezzstar wrote:

Well, I know my unrequited love will never end, and will never be returned (kinda hard when the guy lives over a thousand kilometres away)

If this guy lives in Melbourne or some place, can't you just relocate? If you're a writer you shouldn't be tied down by your job. Or is he just not that into you regardless.

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09 Nov 2014, 10:34 am

Kezzstar wrote:

Andreger wrote:

Screw this narrow-minded society. But I understand you - I try to help those who I am sympathetic to. Not surprisingly that they also hate this society and this is perfect base for some organization.

Not all of society is narrow-minded, in fact most people I come across are very open-minded and kind. We're all just trying to do the best we can.

Maybe in your Australia it is so. But not in the majority of the world. Not in Russia where officials proclaim to burn atheists on fires, not in India where 200 women are raped daily, not in China where thousands are being shot for nothing, not in Africa or Middle East where islamists kidnap and execute hundreds of people monthly. These just a few examples, but in everyday life you can meet not so extreme examples very often. How did I when in my office in the beginning of Russo-Ukrainian war everybody told me that Ukrainians should be slaughtered - I have Ukrainian surname and ancestry. Or when many people are bullied in schools for years for being not same as others - by race, preferred music or just because they have good marks on the lessons. Vast majority of people are narrow-minded and savage.

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09 Nov 2014, 10:50 am

Atheists are now hated in Russia? That's weird.

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09 Nov 2014, 11:05 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Atheists are now hated in Russia? That's weird.

Why? Because they were commies? They are still but that doesn't matter for Russians - leaders of Russian communists were granted church medals last year. We have almost Orthodox christian version of Iran now - even religious censorship is already active. In school everybody now has to learn Christianity.

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09 Nov 2014, 2:40 pm

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Kezzstar wrote:

Well, I know my unrequited love will never end, and will never be returned (kinda hard when the guy lives over a thousand kilometres away)

If this guy lives in Melbourne or some place, can't you just relocate? If you're a writer you shouldn't be tied down by your job. Or is he just not that into you regardless.

A) He was never into me and B) There is NO way on this earth that I am moving from Brisbane, I love this city far too much and I worked far too hard to get here. Even if he was into me, I don't see why I should have to give up my dream for his.

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09 Nov 2014, 3:50 pm

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There is NO way on this earth that I am moving from Brisbane, I love this city far too much and I worked far too hard to get here. Even if he was into me, I don't see why I should have to give up my dream for his.

So your dream is to live in Brisbane? I figured you were just born there. Is living in Brisbane career related? Did you know this guy when you lived in your home town?

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I've decided that instead of getting married and having babies I will finish my book

Don't worry about ignoring your maternal instinct. It may be for the best. Pregnancy would put enormous strain on your body and parenthood would put enormous strain on your bank balance.

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09 Nov 2014, 7:11 pm

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Kezzstar wrote:

So your dream is to live in Brisbane? I figured you were just born there. Is living in Brisbane career related? Did you know this guy when you lived in your home town?

Kezzstar wrote:

I've decided that instead of getting married and having babies I will finish my book

Don't worry about ignoring your maternal instinct. It may be for the best. Pregnancy would put enormous strain on your body and parenthood would put enormous strain on your bank balance.

Not so much career-related so much in that I just love the city. It's an amazing place IMO and I love it. My friends are here, my team is here, okay my job isn't the best but I work with wonderful people (and that is so hard to find!).

He lived in Brisbane when I moved here, but we knew each other previously via football. He's always been someone I've admired and looked up to.

LOL, my bank balance needs all the help it can get.

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10 Nov 2014, 2:05 am

That's a good idea, our creations may be loved if our motivations stretch beyond self interest.

Literature, books, programs, innovations and teaching others. If you focus beyond your individual needs and self interest, you will find fulfilment.

I don't understand why people feel the need to reproduce if they haven't reached their goals. You are taking the sensible route by focusing on establishment and structure.

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10 Nov 2014, 2:58 am

Corinthians 13's opening passages warns against this sort of mentality:

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13 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?s ... nthians+13

And all of Ecclesiastes is essentially king Solomon having regretted justifying his existence through great works and achievements at the end of his life, he then asserts that the unconditional love of God is what life should be centered around, which is sort of reflected in a good husband/wife relationship!

Also notice that you are a female, seriously just pick any guy that is sorta/kinda like you in these forums and send him a message, good chance he is leading a sad and sorry existence, also why on earth is distance, in our modern world much of an obstacle? I know an aspie girl whose husband came all the way to america from eastern europe just to be with her.

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10 Nov 2014, 3:44 am

Klowglas wrote:

Also notice that you are a female, seriously just pick any guy that is sorta/kinda like you in these forums and send him a message, good chance he is leading a sad and sorry existence, also why on earth is distance, in our modern world much of an obstacle? I know an aspie girl whose husband came all the way to america from eastern europe just to be with her.

You're kidding me, right? Do you know how cruel it is to do something like that to someone?! I would NEVER be in a relationship with someone where they were deluded into thinking I loved them when I didn't.

Being in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship is the most draining, soul-destroying experience that anyone can live through. I would NEVER do it again. I'd rather be alone.

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10 Nov 2014, 3:56 am

So if you don't mind me asking, what do you find appealing about Brisbane. I've never been there.

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10 Nov 2014, 4:03 am

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So if you don't mind me asking, what do you find appealing about Brisbane. I've never been there.

Where do I start? I apologise if this becomes a bit rambly and incoherant, but anyway.

The public transport is brilliant, there's the Gabba, Giffin Park (where I go every Sunday to unwind), the Brisbane Lions, the Brisbane Heat, the Queen St Mall, South Bank, Kanagroo Point, it's proximity to the coast, the fact that it's only a 2 hour drive back to see my parents, the big-city feel mixed with a natural aura, the Brisbane River and all the associated walking tracks...it's a dream come true for me.

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