She her for the first time in a year!

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A year ago this girl who is in my social crown fancied me a lot and was obssed with me but I have not seen her since January 2014. More to the point in my hometown 6 weeks ago i saw her for the first time in a year and I walked past her. I was suprised she walked past me not acknowledging me like I did not even exist like she was totally uninterested. I thought she would go mental upon seeing me.

According to people i know she has grown up and matured a lot since I last saw her and has got cut ties with some of her old friends.

Why do you think she now has no interest in me

I believe that I am usually very good about noticing my surroundings. But, there are times when someone who knows me suddenly appears or tries to get my attention, but doesn't, and tells me days later that I didn't notice them.

So, I wonder if your friend was simply enthralled with other thoughts, and missed seeing you.

No I have seen her other times in town in the last few weeks and she is distant and aloof from me. I don't think she cares about me

Maybe she thinks the same about you. She didn't talk to you, but did you try to talk to her? Maybe she thinks you are ignoring her as well.

Well I will be honest..... I did smile at her from across the road last week and she did look at me and say "hi". I told my mum about her acknowledging me and she said "well that is just her being 'civil' "

Being civil = not being fond of someone but at the same just being polite not to cause friction.

I seem to remember finding Women to be fast.
That being they fancy you like mad but if you don't react to their come-on instantly, they will just give up on you right away and try their charms on somebody else.

Women just want a boyfriend, they don't care much who it is, we are just commodities to them, that's why you will never find a single young Woman, even if they break up with their partner, they will have a new one by that afternoon, no waiting around for them to meet their Soul-Mate.

Maybe NT men are the same?, I never tried dating them, I just know from an Aspie perspective by the time its dawned on you a Woman might be interested, its already too late.

Expecting a girl to wait a year the stuff of fantasy.

What did my mum mean thst was just her being civil?

My brother said if she liked me before she will like you again.

Do u think that's true?

I am just very shy

What's a "social crown?" Do you mean "social crowd?"

Yes, JamesY, Café au lait is right.....this could very possibly be the case.

No matter what anybody says, and no matter the amount of influence "gender politics" has had on the world:

Most frequently, the woman expects the man to make the "first move."