Flirting with the Touch Sensitive

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I have been interested in a lady at my school for the last two months. She certainly also likes me at-least as a friend. As for sexual interest, it's fairly likely but uncertain.
She has mentioned that she has a "learning disorder", which I believe to be the hyperactive form of ADHD. I myself have the non-hyperactive ADHD, as well as Aspergers Syndrom and OCD. She is also a noticably strange person, but socially adept; as she's only strange in positive ways, and this school is quite used to atypical people.
Sometimes I feel like touching her; they say it's an important part of flirting. She has mentioned before that she is sensitive to contact. When I've touched her (or reached over to) before it's been hit or miss; she either remains calm or moves and slowly says "no" with a smile. She isn't less likely to react when she sees it coming.

How do you show affection to someone sensitive to touch?

hmm sounds like she has pain disorder an aspie friend says she has it and she even has scar on her stomach where she said had a pain pump that would deliver some kind of medicine to get rid of the pain that even the wind blowing on her makes her skin burn but she is able to disconnect the pain from her awareness somehow that she doesnt feel pain and i asked her if it hurts when ppl hug her and she said it feels like a bruise not sure if this helps at all and she has a service dog to help her and he is such a lovable dog he opens doors and stuff and she said picks up items for her she said it is funny watching him try to pick up cards and things

Do you know for certain that she is sensitive to touch? Not to be a bummer, but she may just be trying to let you down gently.

Try to find out more. Does she act like she likes you otherwise? Does she seem bothered when other people touch her, or only you? If she's really touch sensitive, she will likely go out of her way to avoid any touch.

As a test, try handing her a book you think she might like, or some other small object (but make sure you don't just randomly hand her something, of course!). Something small would work well. Cover most of it with your hands, leaving only one small spot uncovered. When she takes it, see if she takes it with her hands or fingers, if she touched your hand, etc. Don't purposely touch her hand though! If she takes it very gingerly and avoids any physical contact with you, she may be touch sensitive. Otherwise, likely not.

Unfortunately, this won't tell you for sure; but it may be a good indicator.

And, importantly, if she says not to touch her, don't. She surely has her reasons, and it's frustrating to have someone keep doing something to you when you already said not to. If you really like her, and think she likes you, either wait and see how things go, or just ask her out!

It seems like you're focusing on the wrong things and you're trying too hard to determine if she likes you. If you've known her and liked her for two months without taking things to another level, you've taken 2 months too long in my opinion.