My NT geek friend’s missed opportunity?

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My NT geek friend’s missed opportunity?

I went with my NT friend out clubbing to Reflex in Croydon. My friend, who has never had a girlfriend, manages to find a black girl they started talking. She liked him, but to my surprise he didn’t fancy her.

She appeared to like him more then me, I was to find out she don’t like black gays that much. She probably thought that I was a bit fly too which I wasn’t. After leaving the night club, we all had a chance to talk. I thought that I should try my luck as she was kind of intellectual but she was not quite interested in us probably down to the fact that both of us was friends.

After dropping her off down the road, I had a chance to talk to my friend. He said she had great personality but he simply didn’t fancy her, despite her being very attractive. He said that if the girl he fenced had her personality, he would be the happiest person in the world.

But I could never think like that. If I found the perfect Aspie woman who I relate well with, it would never matter what she looked like to an extent. It sure would be better then the loneliness that spoils any enjoyment I have for life.

I guess NTs think in a completely different way, even the very lonely ones. I wonder if he will regret it when he sees she could have been his cure for loneliness. He might even grow sexual attraction for her. If not sexual desire or lack of it is only a small thing that life has to offer.

I bet not many girls would say they want black GAYS as boyfriends!

I know a couple who do!

They probably meet a lot of heartbreak that way

I thought that being black herself would increase my chances. Being aspie and black is not a good combination because I is not beggin-it and is is not bad.

I thought it was you in your photo, Chav? Are you black or is your friend? I only ask because it seems to play a part in whatever point you were trying to make in your story.

So I'm not sure I understood your story. I'll just say this.

Race matters to some people, not to others. Appearance matters to some people, not to others. Some people - NT included - only want a certain physical type. Others are more like yourself, the personality and other non physical things matter much more than outward appearance. Personally I think someone who has to have a certain look in a boy or girl friend (romantically) is a bit shallow, because a human being has a lot to offer besides looks.

But, I guess people can't help who they are attracted to. It is also possible that your friend is gay and wouldn't like any girl but prefers hanging out with you. I am not trying to be rude, but it's a possibility.

As for yourself, I think your putting inner qualties in a woman ahead of superficial physical qualities, is admirable. I did want to point out that some NTs also feel as you do.

Does the guy in Aspie_Chav's photo look like an Aspie?
I know you can't judge buy appearances, but that looks more like a Chav to me. Quite a menancing one too.

I don’t want to win points for not being shallow and it is too late at night to talk about evolution. But I do understand scientifically why people are shallow so I can’t really disrespect them for it. As for myself, I am just the way I am, nature intentioned me to be different.

As for the picture it isn’t me but the real me don’t look any better, I wish my reflection showed who I am inside.