Breaking free of Infatuation - I finally did it.

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Guardeleon
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16 Mar 2007, 7:15 pm

So yeah, I finally did it. Took longer then I had wanted to, but now I have what I believe to be the #1 way so far to drive out an obsessive thought from your mind, particularily if it's about a girl.

This is gonna sound really weird, but if you do it, you'll understand.

If you are plagued by an obsessive thought or infatuation:

1. Keep the offending thought in your mind.
2. Select an inanimate object near you.
3. Optional: Close your eyes. It'll help you concentrate.
4. Keep the thought running in your head.
5. Imagine a portal slowly opening on your forehead that connects your brain to the outside world.
6. When you believe you have opened the portal, imagine the obsessive thought melting, then navigate the melting part out of your mind through the portal, and project it into the inanimate object you selected (I've used a stapler, a newspaper dispenser, and a sink drain, so any object will do.)
7. When the thought has fully entered the object, slowly close your brain portal.
8. Repeat if necessary.

I know it sounds new-age, but it seems to work for me. Maybe you can use it in the event that the Aspie Infatuitis hits you.

calandale
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16 Mar 2007, 7:34 pm

Sometimes infatuation is a good thing. I'm using it to make me happy right now.

Graelwyn
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16 Mar 2007, 7:40 pm

They are only nice so long as you can imagine that the reality might be as possible as the dream...all mine have ended in a lot of pain and anger. I shall never allow it to happen again.

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calandale
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16 Mar 2007, 7:42 pm

I don't know. For mine, I know that there can be no reality. These may be the best.

Praetor2379
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16 Mar 2007, 9:00 pm

Guardeleon, I have an infatuation with a girl right now to. I always see her image in every person I see, and I always think about who she might be seeing or what my life will be like without her around. I need to find a way to drive that thought away and your suggestions may help.

Praetor2379
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16 Mar 2007, 9:02 pm

I have to concur with graelwynn, the infatuation I have doesn't help me go through life. In my school days, going from class to class and walking through the halls is far too difficult for me to do.

Guardeleon
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16 Mar 2007, 9:09 pm

Praetor2379 wrote:

Let me know if my exercise works.

Praetor2379
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16 Mar 2007, 9:17 pm

This girl is a pretty girl always having fun with many guys at my highschool. To try to distract my mind away from her I've decided that I should convince myself that I am no longer interested in her. Hopefully this will work as well, but I will give your advice a go around.

Guardeleon
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16 Mar 2007, 9:23 pm

Praetor2379 wrote:

This is the thing: The more you actively try to think of her, regardless of why you are, the harder it will be to let her go.

I tried generating every bit of anger and hatred I could to expose all of my infat's flaws. Still didn't work.

Then I realized a very simple rule: Out of sight, out of mind.

Don't think about her, and if you do find yourself thinking of her, flush her out of your mind.

calandale
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16 Mar 2007, 9:42 pm

I see some of the negatives. I'm still hung up on my wife (and at least a couple of ex girl-friends), and she pops into my thoughts most of the time when I am walking alone. It can interfere with the time when I do my best abstact thinking.

AlexandertheSolitary
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17 Mar 2007, 6:36 am

Guardeleon wrote:

Does this really work?

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AlexandertheSolitary
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17 Mar 2007, 6:41 am

Graelwyn wrote:

They are only nice so long as you can imagine that the reality might be as possible as the dream...all mine have ended in a lot of pain and anger. I shall never allow it to happen again.

None of mine ever seem to lead anywhere, though the last two including the current one seem better than the one before. I really wish I could learn to get over these things (infatuations) more readily and just be friends with people without being romantically drawn to them. I am afraid that reality is not likely to match my earlier dreams any time soon. I worry that part of me does not want to give infatuation up, no matter how illogical and masochistic that may be.

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azsxdc
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17 Mar 2007, 6:49 am

I like your exercise and will definitely try it next time I find myself obsessing over something. Cheers.

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