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I have little to no desire to interact on a social level yet after a relationship of ten years that was very sexual in nature; with sex every day at least once. I'm finding the idea of having to lie and "con" my way into people's beds rather distasteful at the very least.

I was sent by my local mental health "service" at the hospital to a councillor they have not vetted at all. After a year of counselling I was advised, well ordered to go to mandatory dating events "To find a partner to love" (his words) as part of my "recovery" which resulted in a general disconnect on almost every level with the people I met.

I do not generalise here (as I've read the TOS) but felt they (the people at the events) were totally unappealing except on a physical level. The end result of this "therapy" when the councillor advised me there was something wrong with me for not wanting to get married and have children and advised I used prostitutes.

I discontinued my therapy shortly afterwards and complained to the NHS (they still give out their details on fliers) but have not attempted a physical relationship since. I am wondering if others have found a way to manage this without following this councillors advice and using prostitutes, or perhaps you have.

Three years after this I was diagnosed with autism but at the time I was just "broken"/"waste of space"/"rude" etc, all terms used by medical professions. Now I have a diagnosis (in part) I was curious if anyone had any advice, for perhaps what might be a shallow response but please do not judge me for this rather honest acceptance of who I am.

Kind Regards
NoBody

There's no need to lie your way into people's beds. I think people are actually more open to casual sex and casual relationships today than they were years ago. The only factors I can see working against you here are your age (eventually, a lot of people do want a family) and any difficulties when it comes to meeting people.

You sound like you're happy to wait for something appealing, though. No judgment here. From someone who's been lied to a lot, thanks for just being honest about what type of relationship you're looking for and letting others do their own thing.

Thank you downbutnotout

As someone who got told by OkCupid I was at the wrong website I think I've found it hard to connect with likeminded people on this topic and am feeling pressured into telling someone what they want to hear. Its true I am rather picky and equally a tad blinkered in my tastes but believe it might also be the area I live in as well / age etc playing their part.

I was hoping maybe this was road previously tread by others, and someone might have some sagely advice

There are adult personals sites where you can go and find other people who are explicitly seeking a purely physical relationship.

Yes, there are websites used for allowing people to have only physical relationships. Have you tried using Tinder? It would be acceptable to use a person only for sex if that person is willing to do so.

Have the women you've slept with told you that their feelings were hurt by any of your actions? I did not know AS people were capable of lying.

I think your habit of only being physical is not harmful unless the people you are sleeping with have experienced distress from your actions.