advice for at the gym

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So these days I wait for girls to show interest it's just easier than trying to seduce someone.

So I've recently started going to the gym. A sporty Indian girl caught my eye.( I allways get crushes on Indian girls)I looked at her and she didn't look happy. So I decided I didn't have a chance then later in my workout she seemed to show interest. Another day when I looked at her she looked at me and then looked down.

So I thought the next time I see her I'll ask her how her how her workouts going and then talk about my workout to break the ice.

If she's not very friendly ill cut my losses and ignore her to maintain my respect level in the gym. If she's shy I'll slowly get to know her over multiple times I bump into her. If convo flows I'll ask for coffee later on

I don't want to bomb in a place that's important to me so I'll come across as friendly and see where it goes. So yeah I'm not going to throw myself at her to damage rep but any input would be appreciated

The gym is a really tough place to look for someone. I don't bother myself and just put my headphones in, but like me, many others have that thought process when they go to the gym. Most don't want to be bothered because they are there to improve themselves.

I would be careful with this girl. Just be organic about it, if you run into her, you run into her, but don't seek her out the next time you see her.

It's just my opinion and what I have observed myself...But hell what do I know?

cheers

I've been frequenting the gym numerous times a week, now, and I've paid attention to some of the people and how they interact. Women who come in without headphones and are barely breaking a sweat tend to be on the lookout for men. Men, it's much harder to tell for me. The main thing I've noticed is that men tend to flaunt their body and kind of hang around the girls. Every time I go, I have men trying to interact with me when I have headphones on. It's always something. Either being followed or interrupted when I'm clearly busy. She may be annoyed because of frequent attention by other men. I think only interact when she is not busy. Say, if she's getting ready to leave or if she's taking a short break. When you're in the middle of something, it can be irritating and frustrating to have people pestering you. I wouldn't take it personally. I hope what I said helps. People can be pretty confusing and difficult for us Aspies to read.

Thanks kinme. I tried talking to her the other day and couldn't tell If she was confused,shy , interested though I'm glad I gave it a shot

What i have learned about gyms is the following: People go there for workouts and lifting iron, and not to find someone to spend their life with. Some people may be, but the majority probably isnt, some could get annoyed if they are hit on.

(Thats why i never go there, i prefer constitutionals instead.)

when the gym open up I only going to go lat night when no one else is there. avoid stuff like this and people in general