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I have asp but this seems to attract women to me for some reason. I guess its the seriousness and confidence that I have developed after being through so much bs in life. I am pretty good at talking to girls. I had to learn this by trial but basically I talk to any random girl that I see and the conversation does not matter. What does matter is if I look confident by body posture, smiling, eye contact, and being at ease with anything that comes along. I never let her throw me for a loop. If she says she does not date ugly/weird/old/whatever guys then I respond by saying that I do not either.
Women are very different than men but in the end they want a guy who can make them feel feminine.

I hope that was helpful for you guys but my real question is how to keep interest in a relationship. I get so bored with these ditsy girls or even the girls who society deems as intelligent. They just seem so shallow. I want a girl who I can love and see the beautiful parts of the world together but it seems like romance while enjoying the arts is a lost cause.

I know this is kind of all over the place but I guess its kind of a rant. I have to put on this fake guy but in reality I just want to have a real emotional connection with an intelligent girl who appreciates the beauty in everything.

Let me clarify something. I said that Aspergers attracts women. The reason I said that is because we are very intelligent and once we learn how something works then we can go through the necessary roles to master it. I studied body language, emotional intelligence and also had some help from some charisma experts. A good website for learning alot about this type of stuff is Theartofcharm podcast and they actually have a boot camp to teach you how to build social skills. I listened to the pod cast and picked up on alot of stuff but never did the boot camp. I still would like to because I never feel that I have grown fully in that department.

I can relate to what you say. Probably it wouldn't be too hard for me to find someone willing to date me, but I find the great majority of men (or well, people) I know to be too uninteresting and shallow. But I am aware that some people (me included) don't go around broadcasting their deepest feelings, so of course the perceived shallowness could be just a façade.

I don't know where you live, but I've found that if you look, you often don't have to go very far to find interesting things to see and enjoy. That said, it certainly doesn't hurt to be familiar with tourist spots in dozens of states when hunting around for a topic of conversation.

http://www.mountainlight.com/
Galen Rowell is famous for his photographs in exotic far away places. He later realized he didn't have to travel far to take stunning photographs.

What does that actually mean? It sounds like women want a guy who, every so often, will say to them
"Honey, you have a uterus."

Lol. Making a woman feel feminine is basically being a strong confident man who is in control. Women get so tired of men that they have to basically become their mom. Especially now with the rise of video games.
They want someone who can guide them and protect them if necessary.
A man who makes decisions instead of asking her, "what do you want to do" on the first date.

@who am i
Since you are a moderator. My account says that I am 45 for some reason. I have fixed my bday but it still says 45. sigh.

Yes. We are all just sitting around waiting for someone with a penis to add meaning to our lives with their manliness and directives.

I'm doubting your claim of intelligence based on evidence in this thread.

I'm afraid I don't have the power to fix that, sorry. You could, if you haven't already, mention it in the wrongplanet.net discussion forum, and Alex, the site owner, might see it.


To address your previous post: the only person I want a man to control is himself. I've been an adult for a little while now, so I'm pretty good at guiding myself, and, as someone living in the suburbs in a first world country, there isn't much call for me to be protected. And I can defend myself pretty well if I need to.
What I want is someone who I like and get along well with.

Haha. Did not mean to touch a personal nerve. You both seem like some very powerful and independent women. Keep doing whatever works for you.
Notice that I did not degrade either one of you or your intelligence. I expect the same amount of respect which I am sure that will be given in the future.

I've heard plenty of women say to me "I want a guy that knows what he wants and knows how to get it." Of course, if there is any girl that does want a guy that can be in control of her, she hasn't outright said it and likely never will.

As far as I am concerned, if any lady who wanted to date me expected me to guide her through life, I would wonder why she would want a boyfriend instead of a mentor or father figure.

Aspiemike, look up edipus complex. Psychologist are proving many of freud's points over and over.

It is very true that many men do the same and look for women that carry the same traits as their mother. Even if those traits are negative ie. over dramatic or controlling. This all goes on a subconscious level so many people do not realize it.

Don't get me wrong though. I do not think that guys should control every aspect of their spouse's life. I just think that women are attracted more often to a man who has his stuff together and lets face it men are built differently than women physically and mentally so more often than not men can do some things better than a woman and vice versa. That is why you never see women in the UFC fighting a man. I know its gonna make some people mad but I am just being a realist atm.

Some women do not want this and some women do not even want a man at all. Some of my best friends are lesbians basically because they are the best at hooking me up with hot girls. I better stop there I can feel the hate growing already lol.

The replies in this thread are so off-topic. I also tend to get bored in relationships rather quickly, and definitely agree with a lot of people coming off as superficial or shallow, I'm sure sometimes it is an act but sometimes it seems like it is all they know how to be, which is quite sad. It's hard to have a meaningful conversation with these people cause they go around reciting the same things like they don't have a mind of their own where they aren't able to form their own opinions or thoughts. I guess not everyone is going to be able to relate to this, but some of us can and its good to know we're not the only ones, gives us a little hope.

Uber, I completely agree. Its almost like the world has a set script to read and if you stray from that script then everyone is shocked.
I get so much flack because I am a huge marijuana advocate. Society has deemed it taboo but in reality if you actually do some research the plant is not that bad. I had a church that I attended who said that they would not vote for legalization of it if it came to their state. I stood up and reminded them that the plant is a medicine and God made this for us to use (probably edible instead of smoking) rather than to take some synthetic pain pills. People realized that I was not reading from their boring set script and it did not turn out very good.
Maybe people with aspergers are meant to be protesters

Yes, women love confident men, who can make decisions...BUT, we shouldn't be making all of their decisions for them. The last one I was with couldn't (wouldn't) make any decisions herself, so I wound up making the majority of them for the both of us. End the end, she resented me, because "she couldn't be herself, and do the things she wanted to do". Go figure.

Girls don't want a man to control them, but many want a man to be in control. BIG difference.

Everything in life is about balance, and relationships are no different. When one partner is lacking in one area, they tend to look for another person that has these characteristics that they are missing.