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20 Mar 2007, 3:09 pm

ok, i met this girl about 2-3 weeks ago. we got close soon, and at the end of that day i took her phone number. two days later i called and we arranged a quick date. it was good and we had a kiss, then two days later we met and then i flew abroad for a week, during which i sent her a few SMSes. when i came back, last thursday, i SMSed with no reply. since then i've been trying to contact her: phone and messenger IM, not too often of course. however, in none of those tries i got any response.
i think i'll just leave it, but i'm not sure it's the right move. do you have any advice regarding this issue? i'm confused

TIA



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20 Mar 2007, 3:44 pm

I went thru something similar about a year ago. Went on 2 dates, had a great hour long kissing session at the end of the second, but she never returned any of my correspondence after the 3rd date.

Best suggestion other than just ignoring her completely? I would call and leave a message saying something along the lines of "This is the last time I will be calling. If you ever want to talk, I will be available. Sorry that things didn't work out. Hope everything goes well for you." Say it with confidence though. This will at least give you closure.



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20 Mar 2007, 3:52 pm

Vegasadelphia wrote:
I went thru something similar about a year ago. Went on 2 dates, had a great hour long kissing session at the end of the second, but she never returned any of my correspondence after the 3rd date.

Best suggestion other than just ignoring her completely? I would call and leave a message saying something along the lines of "This is the last time I will be calling. If you ever want to talk, I will be available. Sorry that things didn't work out. Hope everything goes well for you." Say it with confidence though. This will at least give you closure.


Her to her friends: "All he did was kiss me for a whole hour! wtf?"



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20 Mar 2007, 3:57 pm

lowfreq50 wrote:
Vegasadelphia wrote:
I went thru something similar about a year ago. Went on 2 dates, had a great hour long kissing session at the end of the second, but she never returned any of my correspondence after the 3rd date.

Best suggestion other than just ignoring her completely? I would call and leave a message saying something along the lines of "This is the last time I will be calling. If you ever want to talk, I will be available. Sorry that things didn't work out. Hope everything goes well for you." Say it with confidence though. This will at least give you closure.


Her to her friends: "All he did was kiss me for a whole hour! wtf?"


Ironically, that conversation probably did take place. We both lived with family at the time and didn't feel right going to the other persons place to... move things along. A week later, she got her own apartment, I helped her move a bit, and then she vanished. Didn't answer phone calls, emails or texts. Some people are just too pathetic to be honest about breaking up.



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20 Mar 2007, 4:26 pm

lowfreq50 wrote:
Vegasadelphia wrote:
I went thru something similar about a year ago. Went on 2 dates, had a great hour long kissing session at the end of the second, but she never returned any of my correspondence after the 3rd date.

Best suggestion other than just ignoring her completely? I would call and leave a message saying something along the lines of "This is the last time I will be calling. If you ever want to talk, I will be available. Sorry that things didn't work out. Hope everything goes well for you." Say it with confidence though. This will at least give you closure.


Her to her friends: "All he did was kiss me for a whole hour! wtf?"

wow, if that's what you say it's gonna be a lot worse for me: "and all you had was a one minute kiss?" (i was short on time that date, different story).
about the message idea, i don't like leaving messages. i'm gonna feel socially humiliated for a long time after doing that



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20 Mar 2007, 4:49 pm

i hate girls who play mind games argghhhhh
just forget about any girl thats like that with you
you need and desevre someone who is upfront and honest
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