How Formal/Informal should I go?

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There's a nice woman I met at a party with friends several months ago.
I revealed things about myself, like that I was an Aspie and had trouble finding relationships,
and she revealed things about herself.

I saw her again this Sunday at a party, and she asked if I had found anyone. I said no.
We talked some more. She asked about my sketchbook and I showed her my drawings.
Just before I left the party I asked if she would like to go out with me.
To my surprise, she said she would consider it and gave me her number.
I was going to message her on Tuesday, but she initiated an online (typing) conversation
with me on Monday, which was nice. After chatting for a few hours I asked if I could
come over to her place on Friday night (tomorrow) and play co-op with her on her
gaming console. She agreed.

Now to the core:
Tomorrow (Friday), should I get a stylish haircut, dye my beard one shade darker so it matches my head,
put on a little cologne, and dress up nice (not a suit & tie, but maybe slacks and an artsy shirt)?
Should I just dress casual like she has already seen me?
She has already made my week brighter just by talking to me so nicely and listening and giving
me compliments, and I want to show my appreciation, but I don’t want to give the wrong impression.
I don't know if she wants this to be like an informal date or just casual fun with a platonic friend.
I'm okay with either case but I don't want to ruin a potential dating situation by seeming like I
didn't put in any effort, and I don't want to ruin a friendship by seeming too "forward" or awkward.

Thanks for reading. Any advice is appreciated, and I hope you all have a lovely evening (in this timezone).

Haircut, yes. A fresh haircut looks good AND makes you feel good/confident.
Beard dying? Way too much, IMO.
Cologne? Mmmmaaaybe a spritz, but definitely don't bathe in the stuff.
Clothes? Clean, not overly worn, well fitting. Casual is ok.

She's already met you and knows what you look like and is interested. Put in a bit of an effort, but don't try too hard. Good luck!

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