What did I miss?

Post Reply New Topic

Last week, I went to an anime meetup and a girl messaged me afterward. We had a conversation that began with:

This being a very unusual occurrence for me, I was curious and we talked for a bit. I mentioned a board games meetup and she sort of/maybe/not sure invited me to play with her friends sometime. There were also some jokes about typing practice and capital letters. Then



I can guess what she means by a failed attempt, but what would a successful attempt look like?

If you two are still texting, her attempt to hit on you worked. There is not really a correct way to (hit on) show interest in a person. She succeeded in her way because you were receptive of it.

That's a bit hard to follow, but it looks like she was referring to something that was said immediately prior to the "lol" when she speaks of the failed attempt? She said something that was intended to be flirtatious, you responded in a way that (most likely unintentionally) sounded like you weren't interested, and then the text you quoted occurred. What was said before the second quoted text?

Anyway, her referring to whatever it was as a failed attempt was your cue to assure her she had not failed, if indeed you are interested in her. Making a joke about hitting sort of sounds like you are lightheartedly saying "yeah, you're cute but I'm not interested sorry".

Keep up the dialogue. You didn't "miss" anything.

maybe it would help if you tell her your a direct person.

^ This.

Plus she made her move, the ball is in your court OP, ask her out.

She seems to be playful about it and is showing interest; you didn't seem to miss anything. Good luck. :3

I still Miss Universe...

OK…SERIOUSLY???? Am I really the only person who picked up on this???

*slams head on table*

look…

Dude, she's talking about YOU!! !! !! !! ! Hello?????????



It's an invitation, man! Go get her!! !

Nope, the OP got it




Densaugeo: I agree with the others. She seems very much interested in you and wants you to ask her out.

The only thing I would suggest for others reading this is that to take out the "kinda" in the "hello to you kinda" line. Some people (men & women) might consider that a form of mocking or take it the wrong way, especially via text.
Regardless this is a clear sign of an interested girl. Go for it and don't want!

One thing I will warn you is to not drag this out via text. I know, I know it's easy but it usually leads to misunderstandings and false intimacy.

Being that you are an Aspie, you have a lifetime of saying the wrong thing or missing a social clue, so this might be just one of many. Don't get too hung up on it, text her back.

Besides, she sounds sort of like an Aspie herself. Match!

I suggest you be very careful posting any more of her texts here on this forum or any other location. Its a break of trust.

Wow, this thread got a lot of replies. Is there a way to get alerts from a thread without going back to check it manually?

I learned that...I texted her back maybe two days later (I think) and asked if she played dota and wanted to join a game with some of my friends. She asked who I was and explained that she had thought I 'fell off the grid' and I assume deleted my number! This is all new to me, but in the future I will try to be more timely.



Quite true. That is why I posted only small snippets. I'm well aware of how much can inferred from a very small amount of someone's data.

It seems she was using a fairly simple approach:

1) Go to a meetup
2) Send someone new a 'ping' afterwards
3) If they reply, continue the conversation
4) ???

I think I will try to replicate this.

there's a subscribe button in the top left corner of the first thread. probably that maybe. but I've never used it.