How do I take it to the love level?

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A friend of mine has aspergers. He is the beautifulest person I've met in ages. I've fallen for his open mind, his lack of arrogance, his self-discipline, his talent, and his capacity to accept me exactly how I am.

I told him very clearly that I had feelings for him and explained exactly why in details for him to understand (after reading it was important for them to understand). He said he was not ready for a relationship and that his last girlfriend (of 3 years ago) had to wait for years for him to be ready for a relationship with her.

I don't know if I have that much patience.

Is there a way I could make him feel safe, at peace, or whatever it is he needs quicker? Should I accept his words that he is not ready and move on, or wait for him.. or should I continue reminding him that I think we'd make a wonderful match?

I kinda feel like I found my soulmate here. But it doesn't seem mutual... aside from the fact that we chat most days on Facebook for about 1-3 hours.

Thanks a lot. Will be waiting for some guidance here.

Love

Steph

Focus on a situation, that he enjoys. >> likes astronomy, grab ahold of him. Take him off guard. He won't resist.

There is one trick that you can try provided he has the relevant neurodiverse trait. You need to do this IRL, and facebook won't work. You place yourself in front of him, and then remain in this position for a while (half an hour would probably do). A convenient setup is that you go out walking with him, and show him interesting things. Just make sure he walks behind you!

No guarantees, but I know this works on me. A majority of crushes I've had on girls have some component of this.