Maybe I am in denial after all.

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I've doing mental observance of couples for a whole month, and I was observing their clothes, their appearances, their religions, their age, their body language...etc.

I've realized few things when it comes to appearance general trends, because this was the most observable aspect from afar:
- Most men are with taller women, even if the tall woman is very tall (taller than a lot of men), she's often with a man taller than her.
- Very obese men are often with obese women.
- It's not uncommon to see fairly chubby men with thin women.
- It's not uncommon at all to see very short women with very tall men.
- I've seen only one couple where the man is shorter, who both of them are slender.
- I've seen few short and thin guys with much heavier women.
- I didn't see any guy of my exact height with someone tho.

I've also came to realization that more than half of the observed girls are in fact...taller than me (I am 162-3 cm), I've checked the average height of female in the are and it's 165 cm, so yeah...it's consistent with what I observed.


I've already gave up on girls who are taller than me and stopped even trying to approach any of them, for the very simple fact that most of them won't find my height desirable at all - unless if I meet someone who's miraculously different.

I am very slender myself, but is seeking among petite women is also a high physical expectation? Are they really the equivalent of short and petit guys (by equivalent, I mean when it comes to the desirability by the majority of the opposite sex)? Or we short guys are actually equivalent to overweight girls? (and in my experience, they were the most eager to date me and tolerate any height difference).


PS: For those who think that the whole height issue is "it's all in my head" (while you have never experienced of this yourselvesin your entire childhood nor in your adult life), please don't participate in this thread - if you really think I have a complex, fine, but keep it to yourselves. Thank you for understanding, especially Alex and Geeko .

See I've always assumed that a man who is shorter than I am wouldn't want to date me. While I guess they assume I wouldn't want to date them.

It's an assumption that doesn't exist from scratch, but from a common reality.

Also I've read plenty of stories of women who had a shorter bf/husband on forums and even on wp, expressing how they didn't feel right about it and how much they're happier with their current partners' tall height. What's funny that they often claim that their shorter exes had the 'chip on shoulder' regarding the height difference but they do not hesitate to express passionately their preference toward taller men (so it's really a matter of egg or chicken here).

Those stories didn't help either, it's actually worse when a girl accepts to date a shorter guy while one of them is that deeply bothered by the height difference, so yeah, better to avoid taller girls altogether - it's really not like I am significantly harming my chances anyway.

This is something where you may be on to something, from a cursory look at the available studies. I wouldn't make any assumptions as to why that is the case. This doesn't mean there isn't many women that don't apply just that the predominant group in the study picked a partner talker than them.

There are still plenty of short women.

I've noticed a lot of short guys with chubby women myself. There's nothing you can do about your height so why worry about it? It's gonna put a kink in your stripper business, but some good marketing can fix that: Ladies, when you're hot and bothered and the husband is on a "business trip" *wink wink*, let Boo the Arabian Stallion keep you company, pound for pound he's rated the most exotic male stripper in Lebanon.

I'm a short, chubby guy. I've been with women of many sizes and ethnic groups.

I've been with 120-pound women.

I've been with 300-pound women.

It's not that I "transcend" the studies. It's just that my experience has taught me NOT TO RELY SOLELY on the studies.

It seems that members starting to believe I am really a stripper.

It's not a study, just an observation.

Quit focusing outward so much. Dare to be an outlier.

Wear some really thick shoes & pants that cover them abit. I watched Spongbob today taking Crabs daughter Pearl to the prom & he wore tall stilts with springs & long pants covering them & everyone thought he was tall till the springs started bouncing

^ Spongbob ....that's it! Sponges .

Yes there are special height lengthening shoes you can buy though I do not recommend it because even so you'll only come across as fake.

I mean, yes in the short-term it would make you appear more attractive but obviously you're going to have to reveal to a woman your true height.

I never understood the height thing either...

I don't think you should try to be tall if you are short, just be the best short person you can

Giving up on all women taller than you eliminates about 2/3 of American women from your potential dating pool.

You're totally entitled to do that.... but it seems like it'd reduce your chances of finding a partner significantly.

That's a good question. Boo, have you tried messaging americans? For an LDR height should be less critical.

I don't care about women on the other side of the planet.