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21 Jun 2015, 10:52 pm

Whenever I see a woman who is sad, I want to give her a hug and comfort her and cheer her up and when I do I feel good inside, that I did a good deed and made someone happy, is this normal?

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21 Jun 2015, 11:40 pm

I should certainly hope so.

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21 Jun 2015, 11:42 pm

I don't know, I would.

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22 Jun 2015, 2:37 am

When I see a lady crying I want to hug her and comfort her and make her feel better and when she feels better and hugs me back all happy I feel good inside!I get told I am a sweetheart after this, should I take the compliment?

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22 Jun 2015, 8:07 am

Who cares if it's "normal?" It's just the right thing to do.

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22 Jun 2015, 2:41 pm

No, that's White Knight syndrome.

Would you do the same to a crying man?

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22 Jun 2015, 3:38 pm

I don't know whether it's normal. On the other hand, I'd expect to be considered a pervert if I acknowledged that desire, which is probably obvious anyway. More accurately, I almost always want to hug them, unless I know them and am cross with them.

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22 Jun 2015, 9:17 pm

I might. It's not out of the question.

Guys that cry, though, don't react too well to other guys coming up to them to comfort them.

I don't give a flipping flip if I'm a "White knight" in this instance.

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22 Jun 2015, 9:20 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

No, that's White Knight syndrome.

Would you do the same to a crying man?

boo really. and you are the one that gets a phone call from a whacko lady.

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22 Jun 2015, 10:15 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

No, that's White Knight syndrome.
Would you do the same to a crying man?

Would you comfort Caitlyn Jenner if he/she were crying? That's the true litmus test.

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23 Jun 2015, 4:08 am

Thank god this isn't about boobs and erections.

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23 Jun 2015, 4:25 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

No, that's White Knight syndrome.

Yes, unfortunately, and that's why I would never act on it unless I knew her very well.

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23 Jun 2015, 12:57 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:

Thank god this isn't about boobs and erections.

I thought it was.

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23 Jun 2015, 1:02 pm

Spiderpig wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

Thank god this isn't about boobs and erections.

I thought it was.[/quot

i think i need to leave this thread.

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23 Jun 2015, 1:48 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:

Whenever I see a woman who is sad, I want to give her a hug and comfort her and cheer her up and when I do I feel good inside, that I did a good deed and made someone happy, is this normal?

Do you know the woman who is crying? How well do you know the woman who is crying? Do you know why the woman is crying?

If your answers aren't yes, pretty well (& that she'd say the same about you) and have some sort of clue... then, do not hug or approach her, because it's creepy to insert yourself into the life of a total/near stranger and it's unlikely to be appreciated.

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23 Jun 2015, 8:30 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:

It shows that you have empathy for others, which is a VERY GOOD THING. Yes, you should take that as a compliment. There's times when people need comfort when they're sad, so it's okay to give them a hug as long as they let you and they enjoy it. I bet you're a wonderful hugger.

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