How do I deal with rejection?

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I just got romantically rejected, and I don't feel very well. How do I deal with this?

Fill your mind with thoughts of why she was not worthy of you.

Then you can fixate your thoughts onto other things that both improve your life & make you feel better.

Listen to cheerful music, watch funny TV shows, play video games.

Get drunk!

try to bend the thoughts into the point where it is both her fault and her loss.

remember this: she didn't reject you for who you are; she doesn't know who you are yet.
she rejected the ability to go on a date in and of itself, which is her problem and her loss for not getting to know you.
she would likely have rejected anyone in this situation.

(yes, this might not be all true, but if you can get yourself to believe it, this will make things better)

You should focus on school and other pursuits. For example, I, too, was rejected by guys in high school (one ran away from me, some already had girlfriends). Now, I am focused on school and writing, realizing that I was too desperate, and I wasn't ready for a boyfriend anytime soon.

That seems very counterproductive. How about NOT ruminating over this individual at all?

Actually, I do believe you must go through a grieving process and that might include a little bitterness and anger, but eventually you need to just be happy for the person. Plus, you need to prioritize the things that matter most to you and spend less time fixating on the if, whats and whys of the rejection. Its an endless loop of despair that only serves to grind you down and waste your time.

Unfortunately, I do speak from experience here, and it's the most-effective way to fall out-of-love.