Something's not right. I just don't know what it is.

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I don't know what's wrong with me. I've been seeing this girl for about 2 months and she's basically everything I ever wanted. It's just that the thought of being in a real relationship with her stresses me out to no end and I feel anxious all the time because of it. I see myself still texting her every few days and it feels good for a little bit and then the worry comes creeping back on me. It's eating away at me and I can't even sleep sometimes because of it. If this is true love then it's not that great. Do you think it's just me? maybe I'm just letting anxiety get in the way. The stress just hurts so bad.

I have seen you make a lot of other posts about this sir and already replied to many.

My advice is to just do what feels right.

If you don't feel comfortable/ready being in a relationship with her, then just try to agree to be friends. It is better in the long run.

But if you love her enough to want to try for a relationship, then continue what you're doing now and eventually make things official when you're ready.

I suggested in previous posts to continue talking to her and trying for a relationship, but if it just doesn't feel right, don't force it.

Just keep up what you're doing now and see what happens I think.

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But, you know what, on second thoughts, is possible you might make the wrong choice and regret it later on.

How about this: Keep doing what you're doing now and see what happens.

If you still feel the same way in, say, a month, I think if it's already been 3-6 months and nothing has happened, I think it's time to tell her about how you have been feeling this whole time. Just make sure to do it right. That you like her company and want to take things further but only get extremely stressed about it. You never know how she might be feeling about this when you say it. She could even feel the same and not be sure as to why.

Continue as you are and let fate take its course.

Thanks for the input. I need to just chill out.

This is the same sort of anxiety that people go through within relationships--whether or not you're autistic.

Hey Butterfiend.

I have always had way more anxiety around people I like. I think it stems from not wanting to screw up, and not being "sure" if they sincerely like me.

For me, the anxiety either diminished over time when the relationship got to that "secure" place, or the relationship ended. This is true for me regarding both friendships and romantic relationships.

So, I recommend to just keep doing what you're doing.