So I got Tinder...

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So I got tinder a week ago and at first I wasn't getting any matches. So I then changed my profile picture and I got about 10 matches.

The problem is that i'm too scared to talk to any of my matches. This one girl initiated the conversation with me but I stopped talking to her because I was just too afraid. She probably thinks i'm an a**hole but I just get tensed up. Honestly, going on dates scares me since iv'e never done it before. How do I get over my fear of going on dates and initiating conversations with women?


Also, I am only 5 ft 3 in shoes and this will probably turn some women off. If I do somehow get a date, should I tell them how tall I am before wise? That way if it's a dealbreaker, they will let me know? What do you all think? Boo's advice would be best since he's 5 ft 3.

Yeah, let them know of your height beforehand in one way or another.
I do tricks to make them ask me "how tall are you?"; like for instance if you are talking about some sport, you mention how tall this player is - then she would ask this question.

I do this because asking them directly would make you sound you have complex, non-short people are so quick to judge short men of napoleon complex because you know...they know s**t about it.

Or if she ever mentioned she's petite tell her you're somehow petit then she would instantly ask you how tall you are.

Basically, any mentioning of height - would automatically make her ask you this.

Losing a date beforehand (I won't lie, your height *will be* a dealbreaker to most girls taller than you) is way better than going to a date with a girl who happens to be taller than you, even slightly, and then you see her not stopping looking left and right, and titling her head while rubbing her neck slightly - all these are body signs of embarrassment and uneasiness and probably thinking "I hope no friend is gonna see me with this hobbit."

And surely she would mention "I expected you taller" - when she says that then that means there's no chance, no deal - and a sure prediction she would behave the way I mentioned above.

Tinder has a track record for being a hub for superficial hookups, I wouldn't take it seriously. At all. And I don't think it will take kindly to those lacking confidence.

The only cure for your problem, unfortunately, is positive experience. So just screw around on there, talk to people, have positive experiences, it's all you can do really.

Seriously bro you don't need to do any tricks to tell a women how short you are.... If you're that worried about getting turned down in person for your height then just say in your profile "btw I'm a little vertically challenged, 5'3" incase you're afraid of ankle biters" lol just make it funny.

Some women absolutely want a guy taller then them, most could care less. Don't overthink it man.

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I think you should take tinder lightly.
Practice talking to people.
You probably won't even meet any of them. Just practice getting more comfortable talking to people.

And I do agree, make mention of your height because some women really do care about height. It's a weird double standard because they'd be offended if you asked about their weight.

There are women out there for whom it won't be a deal breaker, even if her preference is tall men. I won't lie, I like tall men, but if someone were shorter than me (I'm 5'4") it wouldn't bother me at all if he was a great person. Especially when you've been in a bad relationship like I have, superficial things matter much less.

Kate