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20 Jul 2015, 9:05 am

...is miserable:lol:.

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“It’s the marriage where the woman is far less happy than her husband which is really at risk. Marriages can survive quite well if the man is the one who is more miserable but unhappy wives call the shots — which accounts for the instability of marriages today,” says Deakin University expert in wellbeing and economics Cahit Guven who, with a group of international researchers, published a paper on “the happiness gap”. Using data from tens of thousands of relationships in three countries, they discovered that the bigger the difference in the happiness of husbands and wives the greater the risk of a breakup, but only when the husband was feeling better about life than was his wife.

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Gottman and his colleagues recorded their surprise at the outcome, which they summed up in this advice to men: “If you want your marriage to last for a long time ... just do what your wife says. Go ahead, give in to her ... The marriages that did work all had one thing in common — the husband was willing to give in to the wife. We found that only those newlywed men who are accepting of influence from their wives are ending up in happy, stable mar­riages.”


http://www.theaustralian.com.au/news/in ... 7446330754



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20 Jul 2015, 9:15 am

A subscriber only article. Any theories why this happens?



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20 Jul 2015, 9:38 am

It didn't ask me for subscription first time..... tricky journal.



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20 Jul 2015, 9:39 am

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20 Jul 2015, 9:49 am

Am I reading too much between the lines if I imagine the husband working his ass off to support the wife while she cheats on him? :lol:


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20 Jul 2015, 10:04 am

I wouldn't like that! :twisted:



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20 Jul 2015, 1:07 pm

how is it a happy, stable mar­riage if the husband hates it and resents his wife?



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20 Jul 2015, 1:10 pm

sly279 wrote:
how is it a happy, stable mar­riage if the husband hates it and resents his wife?


It looks that way in the statistics if he doesn't file for a divorce.



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20 Jul 2015, 1:17 pm

rdos wrote:
sly279 wrote:
how is it a happy, stable mar­riage if the husband hates it and resents his wife?


It looks that way in the statistics if he doesn't file for a divorce.


because if he does he loses everything. so its economic blackmail. maybe better off never getting married. I'd rather have a relationship where both wife and husband are happy. suppose Im in the minority though.



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20 Jul 2015, 2:46 pm

sly279 wrote:
rdos wrote:
sly279 wrote:
how is it a happy, stable mar­riage if the husband hates it and resents his wife?


It looks that way in the statistics if he doesn't file for a divorce.


because if he does he loses everything. so its economic blackmail. maybe better off never getting married. I'd rather have a relationship where both wife and husband are happy. suppose Im in the minority though.


I don't think you are, but it seems like men are more tolerant for this than women. That doesn't mean they want to hate their wife (for obvious reasons).