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18 Aug 2015, 4:52 am
trayder wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
it has been my experience that they can break your heart just as effectively as an NT woman. be careful, mon frère. go in with your eyes open.
Not easy, huh?
time heals or at least it numbs.
18 Aug 2015, 5:03 am
auntblabby wrote:
trayder wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
it has been my experience that they can break your heart just as effectively as an NT woman. be careful, mon frère. go in with your eyes open.
Not easy, huh?
time heals or at least it numbs.
I hold to the Marxist view on the family so I tend to be a somewhat detached from my romantic propensities. Of course, if I were to meet a woman who genuinely connected with me as a person and not a social construct, I would be delighted. Chances are pretty slim as they tend to be heavily conditioned along with much of humanity.
I must admit that I was surprised to read that autistic women are equally superficial.
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18 Aug 2015, 5:08 am
trayder wrote:
I hold to the Marxist view on the family so I tend to be a somewhat detached from my romantic propensities. Of course, if I were to meet a woman who genuinely connected with me as a person and not a social construct, I would be delighted. Chances are pretty slim as they tend to be heavily conditioned along with much of humanity. I must admit that I was surprised to read that autistic women are equally superficial.
some questions, por favor...
what is the "Marxist view on the family"? and what seems "superficial" IMHO is merely the Darwinian phenomenon of "natural selection" which seems to describe so much down here in this hellworld.
18 Aug 2015, 5:16 am
auntblabby wrote:
trayder wrote:
I hold to the Marxist view on the family so I tend to be a somewhat detached from my romantic propensities. Of course, if I were to meet a woman who genuinely connected with me as a person and not a social construct, I would be delighted. Chances are pretty slim as they tend to be heavily conditioned along with much of humanity. I must admit that I was surprised to read that autistic women are equally superficial.
some questions, por favor...
what is the "Marxist view on the family"? and what seems "superficial" IMHO is merely the Darwinian phenomenon of "natural selection" which seems to describe so much down here in this hellworld.Darwinism is something of a shortcut to explain away all sorts of ills but we know how culture is the ultimate arbiter in humans by looking at the variety of cultures and social relations humans function under. So in one culture, it may be unacceptable to abuse the elderly whereas in another, elder abuse may be endemic.
Marxist socio economic analysis basically points to the superficial nature of human relations in cultural systems such as ours where objects mediate relationships. Thus marginal groups such as autistics who are invariably economically disempowered live in a sort of nether world of invisibility. If you are lucky to have friends family or a lover who are willing to reach into this nether world and embrace you, that is quite a unique state.
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18 Aug 2015, 5:20 am
trayder wrote:
Darwinism is something of a shortcut to explain away all sorts of ills but we know how culture is the ultimate arbiter in humans by looking at the variety of cultures and social relations humans function under. So in one culture, it may be unacceptable to abuse the elderly whereas in another, elder abuse may be endemic. Marxist socio economic analysis basically points to the superficial nature of human relations in cultural systems such as ours where objects mediate relationships. Thus marginal groups such as autistics who are invariably economically disempowered live in a sort of nether world of invisibility. If you are lucky to have friends family or a lover who are willing to reach into this nether world and embrace you, that is quite a unique state.
thank you for that
I had to learn how to love the reflection in the mirror, I had to make peace with the "Holland" of my existence, to make the best of what I have. beats the alternative. 
at least I'm not in a third world country scrounging for survival.
18 Aug 2015, 5:29 am
auntblabby wrote:
trayder wrote:
Darwinism is something of a shortcut to explain away all sorts of ills but we know how culture is the ultimate arbiter in humans by looking at the variety of cultures and social relations humans function under. So in one culture, it may be unacceptable to abuse the elderly whereas in another, elder abuse may be endemic. Marxist socio economic analysis basically points to the superficial nature of human relations in cultural systems such as ours where objects mediate relationships. Thus marginal groups such as autistics who are invariably economically disempowered live in a sort of nether world of invisibility. If you are lucky to have friends family or a lover who are willing to reach into this nether world and embrace you, that is quite a unique state.
thank you for that
I had to learn how to love the reflection in the mirror, I had to make peace with the "Holland" of my existence, to make the best of what I have. beats the alternative. at least I'm not in a third world country scrounging for survival.For sure. No matter where we are, it helps to understand the dynamics behind our experiences....it enables us to depersonalise the whole thing and actually set about rebuilding our life out of knowledge, not need. Being needful in any of the worlds many reactionary cultures in this day and age is self destructive.
I happily go my own way with that knowledge, my financial success is drawn up around it, and relationships will be subject to its scrutiny. In a nutshell I dont want just anyone in my life, she has to complement me or else she is next to bloody useless.
18 Aug 2015, 5:37 am
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18 Aug 2015, 5:40 am
kraftiekortie wrote:
If anybody asks me my political affiliation, I say "ice cream!"
chocolate, vanilla or strawberry? neopolitan?
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18 Aug 2015, 5:41 am
trayder wrote:
For sure. No matter where we are, it helps to understand the dynamics behind our experiences....it enables us to depersonalise the whole thing and actually set about rebuilding our life out of knowledge, not need. Being needful in any of the worlds many reactionary cultures in this day and age is self destructive. I happily go my own way with that knowledge, my financial success is drawn up around it, and relationships will be subject to its scrutiny. In a nutshell I dont want just anyone in my life, she has to complement me or else she is next to bloody useless.
I could use more fundage.
that would make life a LOT easier. i can dream, mebbe in the next life...
18 Aug 2015, 5:46 am
auntblabby wrote:
trayder wrote:
For sure. No matter where we are, it helps to understand the dynamics behind our experiences....it enables us to depersonalise the whole thing and actually set about rebuilding our life out of knowledge, not need. Being needful in any of the worlds many reactionary cultures in this day and age is self destructive. I happily go my own way with that knowledge, my financial success is drawn up around it, and relationships will be subject to its scrutiny. In a nutshell I dont want just anyone in my life, she has to complement me or else she is next to bloody useless.
I could use more fundage.
that would make life a LOT easier. i can dream, mebbe in the next life...Money empowers for sure.
You ex UK civil service?
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18 Aug 2015, 5:52 am
trayder wrote:
Money empowers for sure. You ex UK civil service?
ex u.s. army, then ex uncle sam [un]civil service. scorpions in a bottle service. voluntary life span reduction service. take your pick.
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