Why would an NT waste their time with an aspie?

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I'm not sad or upset about this, but it's a tricky question.
Life is too short to waste it. Humans only live for a few decades. It's gone in the blink of an eye, so one has to make the most out of most it.
That being said, why would an NT waste their precious time with an aspie? There are many other NTs out there on the same wavelength. Aspies are annoying, infuriating, repetitive, boring, insensitive, rude, disgusting, narcissistic, selfish, immature, bizarre and socially inept. That's the way we are and we can't change it. I see no reason for an NT to want a relationship with such a worthless twisted human, when they could be in a relationship with another NT.
An NT might at first fall in love with an aspie. Once the NT knows the aspie well enough, the NT will reject the aspie and never come back. I don't understand how the aspies on this site got into relationships, or how their partners tolerate them. It wasn't supposed to happen, it's against natural selection.

NT's certainly enjoyed their time with Temple Grandin. She has made quite a few people a lot of money.

Read up on her.

Simple answer: I didn't get together with an NT.

I have found that many woman, even when there's a superficial attraction to someone with big muscles, often have a concurrent desire to hook up with somebody who is "nerdy" and exhibits quite a bit of verbal intelligence.

Has anybody watched the Brady Bunch episode where beautiful and superficial Marcia falls for a kid who had a "special interest" in insects?

And don't forget the "Big Bang Theory" romance between that guy in the glasses and a beautiful waitress neighbor.

You have it backwards. Why would an Aspie waste their time with an NT is the real question...

The same reason why they "waste" their time on any other crush - they like something in the person.

I was told by NT guys that I am smart, caring(not superficially though), honest and I surprise them all the time with my unique way of thinking and deep insight in everyday occurrences.

Dating an aspie might be interesting for an NT because we are different than most of people they know. We are something new to discover. NTs like to discover people qualities so they are curious about us.

I love talking to my Aspie friend - probably too much. IRL, I'd probably end up smothering him. It does get lonely. There is a difference between Aspie and NT friends. I had an NT guy friend and we texted and talked sometimes for 8 hrs in a day and we texted every day and that friendship lasted over 4 yrs until he ended up getting married. My NT guy friend and I had nothing in common, but we were able to talk and keep a friendship going 4 yrs. Me and my Aspie friend have most things in common and we talk now maybe once a week for a couple hours. It's lonely.

you dont fall in love with someone because of his neurological condition. If he turns out to be an aspie, and the relationship works, its ok.

Time spent with me isn't wasted. I'm pretty freaking awesome, even by NT standards.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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I can imagine

I tend to blame myself for my social failures and often ask why anybody would want to have any friendship or sort of relationship with me given who and where I am in life. Everybody has it tough so I can't imagine why anyone would invite more of it into their lives, we can't relate to each other.