Why did he bailed on our first date?

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have been talking to this guy that I met last week. He gave me his number and I decided to text him to see what's up. We arranged to meet up today. I asked him what we're doing yesterday and he just said we will figure it out.

Then he suggested we have a little fun when we meet. He started asking me what things I like doing. I didn't know what he was talking about so I asked him to be more specific. He then said sex and started asking what I like in bed


I told him that I want to meet and hangout for bit and talk, then see where the night leads us. He said ,sure its up to me.

I texted him earlier and said "hey" but he didn't respond. I thought he was still at work so I didn't think anything out of it. Then 6pm rolls around ,still no word from him. I texted him again asking if we are still on to no avail. Then he sent a text around 9pm and said "sorry something came up" .Did he bail because I expressed the desire to hangout first before jumping in bed?



Was it rude of him?

No, it sounds to me like he was rude to you. He obviously wanted a one night stand, and you obviously want to know him first. Probably the end result would have been the same whether you had sex or not. Remember, there are more than a few sleezebags out there.

If I had to guess, then he bailed on you because you expressed or implied a preference for social interaction over sexual activity; and if he is the type of man who is seeking sexual acivity instead of social interaction, then you are better off for having been stood up.

Better luck next time!

It sounds like he was looking for sex & you wanted more so he canceled witch was rude of him but better that he did than go out with you & pressure you for sex.

Yes and Yes. As soon as he said the word "sex", I would have deleted his number and blocked him (unless you wanted a one night stand).

Yes sounds like he just wanted to have sex with you, I'd say he made it very clear, he asked you for sex after having just exchanged numbers and even before the first date. He didn't want anything romantic with you. You better stay away from people like him, unless you too are looking for one-night stands.