What can you add to a relationship?

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Everyone has certain ideas about what they like in a partner but what do you have to offer?
Keep it short if you can.

Love, loyalty, stability.

Also depends on just what kind of person you end up with.

Put it simple I am often the more laidback and 'fun' one, the more caring/suppostive/empathetic one, the one more funny/enjoying humor, and a few other things.

My last relationship was basically almost completely one-sided. So, did I have a lot to offer? Yes, practically EVERYTHING. I made ALL the effort to try and get to know them, to talk them about the relationship, to flirt, to have fun, to have normal conversations, to provide support/help when they needed it. /sarcasm (it's true I made all the effort, doesn't mean I enjoyed it)

So I've got it all sorted out, don't worry about that. I know what I want and I know my worth and what I have to offer as a person.

Good point to bring up though, some want someone when they can't give back.

I can cook, cuddle, fix computers, shoo spiders, and tell you you're pretty.

The spider thing is definitely an asset - I just had to vacuum a spider off the wall while screaming like a girl.

I'm very loyal, affectionate, & caring. I also have disabilities & been through a psychotic depression brought on by anxiety & OCD so I'm very sensitive & supportive of people who have issues & so-called problems. My girlfriend has more than her fair share of problems & issues but I try my very best to help & we get along really good together.

Fish. Now you're like, uhh what? Well I love fishing, so I can offer all the fish that I catch. But if you want a serious answer, then I'll say fun, though that is subjective.

My everything but in the way the partner wants to take.

I dunno, its hard for me to be positive about myself. I think I am caring person, I like helping others more than I like helping myself but I guess maybe that's in part because I don't like dealing with my own issues and can detach myself with someone else. I wasn't aware I had to bring something unique to the table, I don't have any special skills or abilities. What do you want from me anyway?

I'm not sure what you mean by that. Mind to elaborate a little?


Just a short and honest answer. You did great, thank you.

Loyalty, affection and a level head. Also, that most primal marker of a suitable male; walking into the woods and coming back with meat.

Loyalty.
Being able to analyze situations and give advice.
I'm good at a number of domestic skills, but not housecleaning.
I have a tremendous amount of energy and get bored easily.
This is both a positive and negative for relationships. Positive: I am a great motivator and also suggest a lot of ways to spice things up/do new things.

Stability. I have no real temper and stick to my goals once I choose them. I say what I mean and mean what I say.

Affection & Love. I don't love easy or often. But when I find a woman who really deserves my love I make sure she knows how special she is to me. I love doing all sorts of little things to make her know she is my number 1. I also like showing my affection in physical ways - I'm pretty good at massages due to the practice I've had. I also like showing my affection in non-physical ways, like putting sticky notes with hearts drawn on them in her purse .

Loyalty. I'm a bit old fashioned in that I would only really want to sleep with a woman who I have a strong connection to. My girlfriend would not have to worry about keeping my attention - if I loved her I would be more attracted to her than any other girl in the world.

Encouragement. I think people are far stronger than they think, and are capable of much more. If my sweetheart is worrying about her ability to make it through life, I can show her how she is strong enough to succeed.

For instance if he wants to take my specific knowledge in the way of spending time with him discussing it, I'll discuss.
but if he wants to take my knowledge in the way of solving house hold problems, I'll solve.

It sounds like you're really flexible. Men of all types appreciate that

I'm adventurous, an excellent hotel-chooser and travel-planner, persistent as all get-out, easily amused/self-amusing, smart (reads, follows news, into foreign policy) and have my sh!t together (grad degree, job I enjoy, mortgage that's nearly paid off).