Does this female Aspie have a crush on me, or just friends?

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CaptainLevi
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13 Sep 2015, 5:31 pm

I'm NT (share AS traits though), and I want to find out if one of my friends who is a female Aspie has a crush on me. I'll list some of the signals - see what you think! I don't feel that way about her, am in a long term committed relationship, and so want to find out if she likes me as a friend (she's a good friend) or more, so I can understand the best way forward to make sure she doesn't get hurt. So, we share some special interests, we get on very well. She tells me a lot about her life and family, and I try and give her advice and really listen to her - which I'm not sure many people do. I haven't seen her talk as openly with others about deeper topics. She also finds opportunities to tell me things I think she finds special, and even things about couples she likes or romantic films, and she seems to have a different more open and deeper demeanor when she does this - again she doesn't do this as much with others - but then again I don't know her older friends as I haven't known her for an extended period of time. It seems like she makes a real effort to listen when I talk too. Then there's the eye contact, she seems nervous but holds my gaze for quite a while sometimes. And sometimes if she doesn't think I'm aware she'll stare at me continuously without moving. I don't think she's just staring into space as she'll turn away from the group and look directly at me if I'm on my fone or something. So, what do you think? And could you please list as many other signs as you know? There will be lots I haven't picked up on. Thanks :)



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14 Sep 2015, 4:36 am

CaptainLevi wrote:
Then there's the eye contact, she seems nervous but holds my gaze for quite a while sometimes. And sometimes if she doesn't think I'm aware she'll stare at me continuously without moving. I don't think she's just staring into space as she'll turn away from the group and look directly at me if I'm on my fone or something. So, what do you think?


The other things you mentioned don't mean a lot, but the eye contact thing does. What you describe above looks like she might have a crush on you.