Relationships are hard... :(

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I'm new to wrong planet, so let me introduce myself first.

I am a 31 year old woman with a 6 year old daughter. I work part time and have been in a relationship with a man for 3+ years.

I was 12 when I was diagnosed, and did the typical aspie thing observing NTs to "fit in". This has been a curse and a blessing. Everyone expects you to be "normal" when you appear as such. When they realise you're not normal, things become very difficult.

Like many of those on the spectrum, I'm not a hugger, physical contact is difficult for me and displaying affection is really hard.

My partner is a hugger, likes being close. You can see this causes some challenges.

He seems to think that because I don't display affection, I don't care or I don't love him. I do. I do love him and I do care.

It's getting to point where I feel this pressure to show my feelings physically, I can't!

I feel like does he even accept me? He's been there for me so much and is such a great boyfriend. But he expects more than I can give.

Now I feel I have to let him go. I can't change. This is me. He would be happier with someone else.

Explain the problem to him and manifest your affection in other ways, such as regularly calling him, asking how he is and telling him that you love him.