What did my mom mean?

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Me and my brother once were saying to my mom how we are perplexed that some of our friends get girlfriends so easily and how successful they are at holding down long term relationships.

My mom then said to us "we'll they are willing to take whatever comes along"

What did my mom mean by that exactly?

was she accusing you of being 'picky?'

No idea, but being willing to take whatever comes along doesn’t make a difference when nothing comes along.

More effort needs to be put into to officially establishing a relationship than just sitting back and taking what comes along.

Your mother was saying that these people are not too choosy--that they would choose any Tammy, Delilah, or Harriet, no matter how good or bad their qualities are.

She was actually, in some way, giving you a compliment because you are more choosy than those people.

She likely meant that those other boys are not picky about what girls look like.

She may have also been implying that you are too picky about what girls look like.

Either way, every woman around you is an opportunity for a relationship.

Be prepared.

I think she is just trying to make you feel better and that you probably shouldn't read too much more into it, do you really think that's the reason they have had more success at relationships?

And nothing can possibly come along if you never go anywhere ever and never interact with anyone....and are constantly obsessing of how you alone are the most horrible, unappealing, inferior thing to walk the planet. I mean you always come here to respond to peoples posts by putting yourself down or coming down on them for being part of the reason your having the issues you have because they express something they would find appealing....what is it you want advice?...pity? to take it out on people?

Well I imagine either she meant you're picky or at least more-so than your friends....or that your friends don't have much of standards for what they look for in a girlfriend. I mean did she seem sarcastic or like she was trying to comfort you? if the latter than it was likely the second one.

So what?



I'm afraid that must be a misunderstanding. I don't "come down" on anyone for "being part of the issues I have". People have every right to do whatever they want to with their lives, whether I like it or not.



Usually, I just want to discuss whatever is being discussed. Otherwise, I wouldn't post. In this thread, for example, I wasn't even specifically talking about myself.