How do you show love and affection?

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I show it by taking my boyfriend out, surprising him like taking him out somewhere, giving him a Christmas stocking filled with stuff, cleaning and telling to look in the (insert word here) and sees that I cleaned it. Talking to him, cuddling with him, doing the laundry by washing his clothes too, buying food and sharing it with him, buying him an ice cream cone, letting him play my games and WII, helping him with Zelda.

All those things sound very sweet, he must think you're great. You excellently belie the stereotype of the cold, unromantic, and unaffectionate aspie. Anyway, if I weren't single, I think I would embrace her often, eloquently let her know what she means to me, write poems dedicated to her, ask her to tell me about her interests and give her my undivided attention while she does so (this one came to mind in regard to an aspie woman I'm interested in), etc.

I just dont show affection, i truly dont know how, some aspies have it apparently, some dont. I am currently dating, she wants to advance, and I have a hard time just holding her hand. If I force it I am uncompfortable, if she does notwant me to be uncomfortable, she will feel I dont love her. This has been my main issue my whole life, and I just dont know how to deal with it.

Consider yourselfs lucky!

You can't take her to places you want to go to? Do you know how to cook, do you like doing it? If so, can't you cook her food? Can't you watch movies with her or buy her an ice cream?

I think that's showing you care for someone.

um... not so sure about that one.

My wife likes surprising me even though I don't always handle surprises well. She told me that we were going to meet some friends but they didn't turn up... then she said lets go to a stage show (and waved tickets at me).

another time she said we were going into town for a meal and a movie. She wanted to drive in, which is pretty unusual - I said there's nowhere to park....

She said I know a good spot and drove into a hotel with me protesting all the way. She said, these guys will even park the car for us... I was really really panicking and the doorman started trying to open my door - so I locked it - he was pretty shocked.

Then she said "We're staying here" to the doorman - and I shouted no we're not ... etc...

She burst out laughing and said that we were actually staying there, that she'd packed clothes in my bag in the boot etc...

It took me a while to calm down, but it was good surprise.

I'm not personally good at doing those sorts of things to her, though I've taken her out to restaurants pretending that we were meeting people and I try to but flowers/presents etc and hide them.

I love my cuddles I do and so does my new girlfriend who like me has Asperger syndrome I keep telling her that she is the most beautiful woman in all of Aspergia because some times she doesn't feel it and any woman whether they have allism or Asperger syndrome likes to feel special. Fortunately for me my girlfriend loves her cuddles to and. I have taken her out on a date which was lovely and we can have real deep and meaningful conversations and we are both people who like to talk about feelings a lot and we have so much in common as well as the type of Asperger syndrome we have. I always like to tell her how much I love her an all this as well as prove it by showing respect that she deserves and complimenting on her clothes as well.

I like giving hugs to people I trust, but I often don't like receiving hugs so much. I also do loads of things around the house for my mum because she can't and because I want to make her happy.

I love hugging & cuddling with my girlfriend, telling her I love her, spending alot of time with her, & providing emotional support.

Compliments, doing nice things, gifts, non sexual touch like hugs, holding hands, etc., listening and being there for people like I would for a friend.