Are you ever scared to approach girls/guys?

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07 Apr 2019, 5:29 pm

Are you ever scared to approach girls/guys?



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07 Apr 2019, 5:47 pm

I’ve learned my place, I don’t dare approach women.
So I guess yes.



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07 Apr 2019, 9:38 pm

I just approached women I knew & making a move scared me. It never worked with women I knew offline & online. Some of the women got upset with me & quit being "friends" cuz they thought I was gay


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08 Apr 2019, 1:16 am

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sly279 wrote:
I’ve learned my place, I don’t dare approach women.
So I guess yes.


Same. Trying to ask somebody out has one of two possible outcomes:
1. They reject me.
2. They reject me, call me a creep, and destroy my standing in whatever group we're in.

So yes, I'm scared to approach others. Forming a crush on somebody means I need to cut contact with the entire group.



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08 Apr 2019, 6:23 am

I don’t know “my place”—-and never will.



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08 Apr 2019, 8:50 am

I was that way in my youth. However after failing misurably for too long of a time, I simply gave up and no longer worry about it anymore. It was just not meant to be for me. My social skills are too low to make it work with members of the other sex, so I concentrate on things that I actually have a chance at succeeding in.



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08 Apr 2019, 11:24 am

Yes and no. The last guy I dated I waited all summer vacation just to make sure I really liked him. First day of school I decided that I did so I asked him to go out with me and we did.

I got rejected once when I made the first move and it was very hard to accept that he didn’t feel the same way.


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08 Apr 2019, 1:05 pm

I don't know whether I am scared or not cause I never approached a woman IRL (online I have and it wasn't bad.)

I don't really know how to decipher the signals girls give when they want you to so I never tried.



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08 Apr 2019, 10:31 pm

Lol I'm scared/anxious to approach anyone for anything, end of story.

If we're to be attracted to someone I'm even more likely to be completely freaked about approaching.


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09 Apr 2019, 7:35 pm

Alterity wrote:
Lol I'm scared/anxious to approach anyone for anything, end of story.

If we're to be attracted to someone I'm even more likely to be completely freaked about approaching.


This. People freak me out by default. I guess the main reason I have a social life is because at some point I realized we're just all going to freak each other out. :jester:


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14 Apr 2019, 7:56 am

yes because they will reject me 100 % and say something mean.



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25 Apr 2019, 10:54 pm

Thus far in life, yes. And I have to admit, I miss being younger and once in a blue moon being approached myself. I have work to do in every area of my life, but yes this is one of the most important to me, i.e. finding a partner.



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26 Apr 2019, 1:20 am

Not scared but at a loss. The way an NT would probably feel if he wanted to appoach someone in a foreign country with an unfamiliar language and culture.


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