Proposal...

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I know I should want to avoid marriage after my previous experience, but I don't.
My girlfriend is more than I could have ever hoped to find in a partner and I consider myself very lucky to have found such a gem when past experiences had lead me to believe I would be better off alone.

We are very playful and take little to heart, as we both know we will never fully understand what it is like to be in the others head and we never mean to be rude or do something "wrong", although we will talk about it when it does happen in an attempt to decrease the chance of a repeat.

Our (very infrequent) arguments are short lived, dull and resolved quickly.

There is no doubt I want to spend the rest of my life with her as I cannot imagine my life without her nor do I want to.

I have already bought a ring which I am sure she will love, I have also bought 3 chests that fit inside each other, the first about the size of a tissue box, the smallest just big enough for a ring.

I was thinking on the one containing the ring I would write a note like "Will you be my player two?", which I know has been done, but does have value for us, as she always lets me be player 1 when we play together as she knows it matters to me.

As for the other 2 chests, I am not sure what to write, I was thinking about a harry potter quote as she is very into the books, however I have not read them.

The other thing I am unsure about is, Private or Public? Obviously I would prefer Private as I will be anxious enough already, however I would do so if I thought it would make the experience better / more memorable for her.

For our anniversary we are having dinner at the place we had our first date and I was planning to propose on the night.

Any help / insight would be appreciated.

As long as it's not a "Modest Proposal" (by Jonathan Swift), you should be okay.

Make sure you're spontaneous about it.

Maybe you could combine Harry Potter with Unturned Stone--I'd think she'd enjoy the quote even more.

Have you spent much time with her in a home setting--like you staying over her place, or her yours? That's more important than you think: domestic compatibility. How do you feel about her messy habits, or she yours?

We have lived together for a year, and have had very few issues.

The public/private question depends on your gf's personality. Some people have specific ways they like to celebrate the big moments in life. I was proposed to in my living room, and we picked out rings together later. Some women would be horrified by the lack of decorum, but it was reassuring to me.

I can say from experience here that I can plan for a proposal all I want, but the way it actually happened was totally not planned. How? I was in the bathroom, she decided to clean up and put some stuff in a drawer in which contained the engagement ring. I thought she found the ring, so I proposed right then and there. Of course she said yes, or I would have likely been spending more time on these forums in the last few months.

I think the point here is this: Don't be surprised if things don't go totally as you planned it and be thankful if she says yes.