Happy to be weird?

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I can't be the only one who'd rather change the world than themself...

The more I think about it, the more perplexed I get about people with AS freaking themselves out about finding relationships ASAP. Maybe I'm a sucker for all the suspense but I enjoy myself more when I forget about the usual NT headspace and just consider all these questions on a personal basis. The way I see it, either I could predicate everything I do on a bunch of hearsay and off the cuff advice (thus blowing my social life up in my face & compounding all my dumb social anxieties) or I can actually try & help everyone get along by showing real enthusiasm for peoples' lives and sharing as much as I can with them. I keep seeing everyone my age (& sometimes above it!) getting caught up in the love/like/friends questions day in, day out and I just want to point out that no matter where one falls in those three categories, none of them are bad!

It's really simple, if there's somebody on earth who sees through the miscommunications and can make you laugh in three words or less, be thankful.

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-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

IDK I just accept myself as who I am, who have many flaws.
I have little desires to follow others' examples, as they seem too different from me in many ways.

So you're non-complacent. That's certainly no flaw, I think my own imperfections get blown out of proportion whenever I'm concerned about what people think. I feel I'm a better conversationalist when I'm scarcely even trying.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

cberg, you have a good outlook. I don't think I am happy to be weird. I do accept it though. It's better than continuously trying, and failing, to be or appear to be someone other than who I am.

I suppose my OP isn't necessarily a cause/effect pattern as much as an observation, it's easy to see 'masks' as a courtesy to others but how well would they work if they just make us feel disingenuous? Self-acceptance seems rooted in context - changing appearance & demeanor can help at times, but it pretty much means internalizing the same shortcomings that prompted the charade, as opposed to correcting them.

_________________
"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos