Reading between and underneath the lines. PLEASE HELP!! !!

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Wow I have not been on here for a long time. High time I start making my presence known again.


Ok so here is the situation:

I am learning how to date on the internet. The problem that I am running into is learning to read between and underneath the lines. I will give you an example of how two perfectly functioning neurotypicals communicate with each other while getting to know one another through an internet dating site.



GUY: Could you date someone who order a plain bagel with cream cheese when they have other options?

Sent Monday



GIRL: If that what they like

Sent Monday



GUY: So you like your men boring, huuh?

Sent Wednesday



GIRL: I like him to know what he wants

Sent Wednesday



GUY: You know what I want?

Sent Wednesday



GIRL: Not unless you speak your mined

Sent Wednesday



GUY: Do you want to know what is on my mind right now?

Sent Wednesday



GIRL: Ok

Sent Wednesday



GUY: I would like to text you and talk with you on the phone as long as you don't eat plain ass bagels

Sent Wednesday



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GUY: So I was at the rock climbing wall today at U.C. I made it all the way to the top and guess what happened.......?

cRead by raspberryland Yesterday



GIRL: What? The bagel fell out off your pocket? Pardon, I meant an eclair;)

Sent 12:00pm


GIRL: The last one was over the line, but I hope I made you laugh a little


As many of you know this is called subtext within communication.


Now here is what I need. I need an Asperger teaching tool that will show me how to read between the lines of when a person talks to you. Does anyone know of anything out of Jessica Kingsley publishers that can accomplish this? I hope so. It has been years since I have even talked to a woman and now I am learning how again. Boy am I grateful believe me!! ! I was diagnosed at 26 and it took since 2006 to get to this point.

P.S. I don't think there is going to be anything out there on how to teach adults with Aspergers Syndrome on how to send sexual innuendos. But I think there are things out there that teach you how to read between the lines and how to communicate face to face using subtext within communication.



THANK YOU SO MUCH,

John Connor (leader of human resistance against the machines)

Last edited by JohnConnor on 06 Nov 2015, 10:43 pm, edited 3 times in total.

I don't find much substance in that conversation.

Maybe they're making some sort of sexual innuendo--I don't know.

Frankly, I wouldn't want a girl who talks like that. I want more substance in a person whom I'm dating.

@ KraftieKortie: You are entitled to your opinion. Those two were communicating on two different levels. The surface level of communication didn't matter. It was the poorly hidden meaning underneath the surface..... Again, I totally respect your opinion but I find it exciting and enjoyable....

Well, the conversation certainly isn't about the actual content of the conversation, but... I agree that I wouldn't find such a conversation interesting... I would quickly become lost and swimming in a sea of unseen innuendo and sub-current.
I would just be dazed and confused mainly...

I personally HAAATE this kind of communicating, just like: UGH! say what you want to say. Nothing more nothing less!

I'm glad someone enjoys the challenge! I just find it unnecessary and inefficient. I enjoy bartering in words and linguistic play, but of this sort I ... eh, just not my cup of tea.

Hey if Bartering words gets you laid you have my attention. But I still need that tool.