issues with my roomate's girlfriend

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i just moved into this house a few months ago with 2 other guys (i'm a guy too). One of them has a girlfriend who is there almost all the time, and he's not. I've always talked to her because we're usually home alone together on the weekends and i've kept a fairly professional and appropriate relationship with her for the most part, but now things have been a little different. I've always thought that she liked me, but lately it's become more obvious. She's also been talking about how unhappy she is with her relationship and how it may end soon, and also asking me why i don't date and if i wanted to get in a relationship with someone eventually.
On my end of things, i've always been pretty good about hiding my feelings, untill recently, where i think she's starting to pick up on them through eye contact and my slightly uncomfortable behavior. Obviously i really like her or i wouldn't be posting this lol
I'm still biting my tongue on the whole situation and nothing physical has come out of it.

I really don't know what to do here. Well actually i'm pretty sure i should try and let it die, but i know i will regret it if i do. I'd just like some closure on the situation. for all i know, she's just using me for affection an attention that she's not getting from her BF. Or maybe she really likes me and secretly wants a relationship. Or maybe she just wants sex because she's not getting any right now (which she told me). As for the roomate, he's a nice guy an all, but i also don't know him too well because he works weird hours so i never see him. I guess that's how i justify it, even though i guess it's wrong.
I just needed to vent.

Do not walk that line my friend. It had bad written all over it and will end in disaster if you pursue this woman. I know it's hard, but you have to do what's right and most logical. Ignore Mr. You-Know-Who downstairs in this case.

I met my psycho ex in just this way.
Other than almost ruining my life, it
was pretty good.

Still, I believe that a correct love
connection is more important than
almost anything else, so I'd see what
happens. It doesn't sound like you have
any particular relationship with her bf, so
I don't see much harm in it, myself.

aye yi yi yi.

danger will robinson, DANGER!

Time to stop thinking with your testicles, dude.

Consider that you have to live with this housemate, and if you get together with this girlfriend of his while you're still in the same house, it could end up being very messy indeed. You could lose a friend AND have the relationship go south very quickly, and then you'd be left with nothing.

I'd tread very, very carefully here. If they break up, and you feel you want to pursue a relationship with this girl (and she with you), I'd make sure you let your friend know about it first. Otherwise it could get very messy indeed...

if you're serious about her... i'd suggest moving out of the apt...

don't think that would be good to have the ex right there

That's pretty much a given, and i have considered it, even just to get out of the whole situation.




and trust me when i say, if it was just a sexual thing on my end i wouldnt be an issue. I can just turn that off for the most part.

stay away, even tho i no nothing from experiance from this, but its a DEADLY way to get a girl

Your gonna have one Pissed roommate more than likely.
If it does happen make sure he doesn't think you hit on her while she was with him.
But more than likely he wil find out that you did that.
It's a pretty risky thing to do.

i'm really not too concerned with the risk, as i already weighed them. I'm not having a problem with how risky it is, if it's right or wrong, or how i feel. I have already processed all that in the standard intense AS fashion. I more or less am not able to fully understand what it is she wants, although i'm positive it's something. I have this problem alot with people, and i just want to understand before my head explodes. If it is just sex, i can let it go, and it will be a huge relief on my end, which i need. It's possible that she's an Aspie as well, since she's the one who actually clued me into the fact that i have it in the first place.

I sort of disagree. Get her to agree, before you move out.
Moving's a hassle, and you probably want to make sure
that you're doing it for a reason.

She is not the last girl in the world. Remember that.

Get them drunk or drugged and ask if they would ever consider a threesome.
Take it from there.

edit: just read that the boyfriend is not around much.
What's the problem?
She is on the menu.

Umm...morals? Respect? Common sense? Bad advice. I hope this isn't the way you really think...

I dont let morals hinder me.
I have respect.
Common sense; not much of that so i am told.
Bad advice; your opinion.
( I have experience in work within the adult industry so i figure i am better qualified than most around here in giving advice. I have even seen posters giving advice about sexual matters then later saying they are virgins. It's laughable.)

Anyway, there are people like me around.
But do not be too worried. I think there is a saying, 'don't mess with the wildlife and it won't mess with you.' Or something like that.

well, i ment just to avoid the whole issue.
I have a plan... next time she throws a signal my way i'm going to call her out on it. Maybe it's just the fact that she wants attention, and in that case, i'll ask her to leave me out of it.