Is this going over the top or not?

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Is it a gross exzaggeration that men under 6ft do not stand a chance with women? If it's true then that puts a huge amount of men at a disadvantage.

I am just thinking as well perhaps what women really mean is 'if your under 5ft10 you don't stand a chance'. Since a lot of men who are like 5ft10 or 5ft11 lie about being 6ft by putting it on there dating website.

Even if there ideal is 5ft10 that still puts loads of guys at a drawback


Your opinions?

Yes.

I'm 5ft 8 and do ok. I had a gf until recently and was also dating last year and the year before it.
Boo is shorter than me and (if you believe him) he seems to be doing very well for himself.

Don't get me wrong, being short can be a disadvantage...but! Consider:

-Speaking to women shorter than you,
-Your height in character and not just stature.

That's not out of the question, but from experience ... I find it a little weird, even if I like them small man syndrome maybe?

I'm short. 5 foot 4.75 inches. I've had some trouble getting dates in the past because of my height.

But as one gets older, one finds that women care less and less about such things as height.

I don't think too many people find 5 foot 10 to be too short.

Your height isn't that bad. My height is worse.

If only I were 5 foot 7 LOL

If I can get girls and get married, you could, too!

Yes. It's OTT.

In fact a guy over 6 foot would have to be appealing in other ways for me to date him cos that's a bit tall for me!

I'd say being significantly shorter than average puts a straight guy at a disadvantage, speaking in generalities. But even then, a disadvantage is different to it being hopeless. If you are a good person and live in a populated part of the world, you stand a chance of finding someone.

It is false and an exaggeration to say that men under 6 ft don't have a chance with women.

It is true that some women are sticklers on height and would not date someone under that, thus men under 6 ft don't have a chance with those women...but females have different preferences so there are no absolutes as to what does or doesn't attract them.

I myself have never had any height preference, I can't rationalize why that would be such a big deal to anyone. I think some women who express that they find tall guys attractive wouldn't reject any who aren't...that is just one thing they think is physically attractive but not a requirement.

Waiting for Face of Boo to chime in....

FOB: I was wondering, women in your nation tend to be shorter than western women, correct? Do they share the same height preferences as western women, or in one of your 'online dating experiments' have you found something else?

OP: It's over-the-top in my opinion, but not much so.

Even if Sweetleaf argues there's plenty of women without an intentional preference for height, the fact is, for many people, our preferences may be sub-concious.

For instance, I myself thought I had no 'height preference', yet every female I've been attracted to has been extremely short for a woman.

The tallest girl I liked last year was about 5'3'' or 5'4'', my ex was 5'2'' or 5'3'', and the shortest girl I liked was exactly 5'0''. My second girlfriend was above average height, though she was an outlier.

I did not choose to prefer shorter females, I just naturally did, and only realized it was a recurring pattern in every girl I've been attracted to.

Just like how there may be many, many women with 'no height preference', yet they coincidentally have only dated men 5'10'' or above.

Many of our preferences and taste may be sub-concious and need to be discovered. Many of our preferences may not be entirely obvious to us, and may require some thought or self-reflection on our real life experiences to figure out.

It's definitely a disadvantage, no way around it. It's quite a bit crueler than just body weight or what your reproductive parts look like, it's more like skin color since you can't change or hide it. Saying that I don't think my life would be a ton different if I was over 6' if nothing else changed, just one less thing. Saying you have no chance is over the top for sure tho.

I'm 5'1" - tall men turn me off. It's hard to define tall. It has to do with the angle of my neck when speaking to them. Who wants a man that'll give me a crick in my neck. Also a tall man reminds me how short I am, which I don't otherwise think about. Oh, I guess 5'7" would be tops for me.

Another thought: Americans are taller than Canadians. It's the land of giants down there. Also, I'm guessing that Canadian women of my generation average 5'3". But Canadian female teenagers today seem to average 5'8" - good for them but I often wonder why.

Anyway, I think geography has a lot to do with it.

It seems pretty much all straight women want their partner to at least be taller than them so it makes sense the shorter you are the shorter what you consider an acceptable height. I don't think most women, correct me if I am wrong, are attracted to someone shorter or even the same height as them. I'm sure there is someone out there but generally speaking I think this is true more times than not.