How can I get this girl to like me? Please help!

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Straight to the point... I met this girl at a recovery program for teens. We had very limited interactions there unfortunately, but whenever we did I was completely gushing over her (in the inside). Our playful back-and-forth and general discussions were great. I really enjoyed being around her.

The program ended last week but we've added each other on Facebook. Today I sent her a message letting her know I'm here to talk if she ever needs it - don't get me wrong, I care about her feelings. It wasn't just about making a move on her, but I do want her to know I'm still here.

She sent a message back thanking me and we've talked a bit about a concert she went to on Sunday. It's been fluid so far but at first glance you can tell she still has her guard up (rightfully so).

I want to keep discussions going over the next few days and get to a point where I can see she's more comfortable talking to me. Just more open. I don't want to scare her away due to no mutual (social) benefits coming out of our conversations; in other words, I don't want to be a creep, haha.

Any advice would be appreciated!

I think you need to relax and just be yourself.

Being too pushy and desperate is a sure way to spoil what could be a good friendship or possibly more. Either she will like you or she won't. You can't force it.

I get you. The good thing with her is we can relate and have each other's backs on a more personal level (I mean we both went to a recovery program...).

She's a smart girl. I'm sure she has an idea that I like her after my first message. Like you said about being pushy... I am scared I could come across as such no matter how sincere I am. I'm the one making the first move(s). I haven't been in this position for awhile.

I think you need to distract yourself with other things so it's not always rolling around in your brain. Spend some time on your interests or make a new one, maybe something that could be a good discussion point between you when you do make contact. Don't allow yourself to obsess so much that studies, work or other relationships suffer. Some physical exercise makes a good break if you are starting to obsess too much. The more self control you can practice now, the less chance she will be 'scared off'. I hope things go well, whether as friends or more.

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, and now that I think about, cliche would also qualify...

Tell her how you feel?

Usually saying something as simple as "Hey, you know, I think I'm developing a crush for you." is enough to convey your feelings.

You can't get someone to like you. They either will or they won't, but you won't know if they do or not if you don't go for it.

So, you know, go for it.

Get on your knees and beg?