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Yeah I'm 16 and I can't open up to girls. My brother has alot or partys in my house and girls always try to talk to me and say im hot but I always get so tense that I can't think of anything to say. Anyone got any tips for this?

I have that problem too, i can never think of things to say when in a smalltalk conversation.
You could try having a beer or two.
Do the things you usually do to relax a bit.
If you're able to relax properly, you'll have less problems with talking.
(It's still possible you'll have problems on what to talk about but you'll have less hurdles about a subject when it comes up.)

Alas, not too much. There are tons of
places where advice is available, but
I'm too cowardly to make use of it for
myself.

Ask them questions about themselves. A lot of girls like guys that will listen.

Ask them what sport they play or like to watch.

If that doesn't work ask them about travelling ... where have they travelled. Where would they like to travel.

if you do as smelena suggests you must be careful not to sieze the conversation by the reigns with tales of your travels though. Its far too easy to do and makes it look like you aimed the conversation in a direction where you can bloat your personal image further (thats what it looks like, I don't really have that much of a bloated ego)

Is it just girls or can you open up to guys?

People love to talk about themselves, have a drink to relax yourself, be a gent and get her one too. Then ask her a few questions and pretend to listen to her answers.

Yep remember to talk about her as grim says. If you ask question and you don't have talk for 10 minutes bar mumbling yes you're winning.

I can only talk to my 2 best friends. I'm too anxious to even talk to my family most of the time.