too good to be true?

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I really have no idea what to expect by posting this ... but here goes. basically in the last few weeks i've become good friends with this girl, shes one of the first non-family members non-doctors i've revealed my AS to. shes been really understanding and is one of the only people in the world i feel accepts me for my true self and not all of the falsity that i usally surround my self with. a few nights ago she really stuck up for me when a few of our other "friends" were being jerks to me. when we talk at a party she always holds my hand or has me put my arm around her... i dont know how to interpret any of this, i dont want to become too emotionally involved lest i ruin our friendship, but i can see the first signs of this appearing. we both graduate from college in may so i dont have much time left, but i never know what to say or do and in my life if somthing seems too good to be true it usually is...

If she knows you are an Aspie and she accepts it, ask her how she is feeling about things. I think it's alright since she understands to say you are worried about what it would do to your friendship. I think it's also fine to examine what you feel and be honest about whether or not you are interested in something more. Do you think you might like it? I met my husband in college and the first thing I liked about him was that he could accept me as I was. He also defends me. It might work out. I think you should talk about it.

Clearly trust this girl as you revealed your AS to her so you clearly trust her and as she sticks up for you when others around she cares when she goes to hug her back and then reach to kiss the girl you may get lucky you may jot if yo do not you will never know either way

gonna talk to her in 9 hours, hopefully i can muster up the courage to say something by then...

Good Luck!
You're gonna need it!

Be sure to update us!

well she had to cancel untill tomorrow because she had a meeting she forgot about and then she works until 9, but she works at the bar next door to my apartment, but i'd rather talk to her in a non-distracting environment. so i have more time to torture myself and run through our potential conversation out loud, trying to cover all contengencies, i'm really getting worked up over this. potentially i could go to the bar and get a beer before she gets off in 240 minutes maybe i should wait, i dunno, im still as clueless as ever.

Whatever you do, don´t make her a sounding board for all of your AS problems. You´re already in with "the secret", so maybe try to focus on other parts of your personality.

Agreed. Try to focus on her, ask her about her likes and dislikes and stuff. Remember something interesting that she says, and bring it up in the conversation later, it will show her you've been paying attention to her. Dwelling on you and your own AS-related problems will just make you come off like a whiner. Been there, done that.

Good luck!

Wow... this situation has now become so out of control and strange... I feel like im in some kind of Aspie soap opera. A second girl has now entered into the picture, and now my confusion has doubled.

Girl A has been busy with a rough work schedual and and outside of social settings (which I despise) I havent spoken to her much, but our converastions are intense and pretty awesome (we have differing views on the nature of Infinity, I know im right though ) but i wont be comfortable bringin up any on the issues discussed here until i can speak to her privately.

Girl B however, i met since she had a longterm relationship with one of my best friends. needless to say he is now her ex, and i am no longer friends with him for a variety of other reasons. its always been pretty clear that she was intrested in me, but i dont backstab my bros (unlike him unfortunitly) we actually set up a date to see a classical preformance on sunday. she also has savant abilites for learning languages (she is fluent in like 5 and learning 3 more)

procedeing from here is uncharted territory for me I have no idea how to work this out...

WOW GO BeyondInfinity i would give anything to be in your situation. Good on ya mate.

No, you have a good chance. Not too good to be true, she likes you, but don't rush it. Be careful, and make the right moves, and you'll have more than her friendship

Someone on your side and a date to look forward to means you have the best of both worlds so don't forget to enjoy it for what it is
Whatever happens, it sounds as if you've got a damn good friend in girl A, but there's nothing wrong in keeping your options open with girl B
Good luck to you

I'm gonna sign off on this thread untill I get some resolution, most likley this weekend. thanks all for the support, and advice it might help or i could blank on it when it counts (mental lists mental lists mental lists)