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I'm thinking about joining a dating site again, I'm not good at writing profiles. Does anyone have any advice? I only have one picture of my face.

Write about how you enjoy art, and enjoy dancing. Showcase your art.

Only mention Bryan Adams in passing; don't write that you really like him quite a bit.

I joined OKCupid last night & since then I got 11 message. I'm talking to 4 men this morning.

That's because you're a woman. On social media, women will always get more profile views or messages from the opposite sex.

Go make a MeetMe profile and have a photo of a man you found on the internet. You'll yield nothing or be told you're fake.

Go make a female profile with a photo of someone or yourself and youll get 400+ messages a day.

Double standards is BS on the internet. It's why I'd rather not even bother getting to know some people.

I've never gotten 400+ messages a day or even 1, maybe a few every month...there are no absolutes when it comes to this women don't 'always' get more messages than males. Also if every male yielded nothing except getting accused of being fake how on earth have I seen guys say they met their girlfriend on a dating site? Even my boyfriend found me on okcupid. So yeah it is actually false that guys have zero chances of meeting potential dates online, or that women always get tons and tons of messages and attention on dating sites.

Also I never get why people get upset that they don't get 50+ messages a day or something, I'd think quality is more important than quantity when it comes to this. And yes it seems the social norm of guys initiating expands to dating sites to so probably less women send initial messages than men but its not as simple as guys never get messeges and girls always get tons of them...I'd think sending women messages is easier than approaching them IRL.

...And people say women don't really have it easier. I wish people didn't have this ingrained "women get chased by men" program, it seems like it would be just as annoying for both sexes and causes a lot of anguish. Women get unwanted attention, or worse, and men have to be aggressive and fight for a relationship and constantly put themselves out there chasing after women who already have a wall up. At least women get attention though.

I don't like society. I'd rather just exempt myself from those weird "rules" and wait to see of anyone crosses my path rather than chase after people.

Last edited by AsahiPto17 on 06 Jan 2016, 4:07 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Make sure you don't get used Kitty...!

You're obviously missing the point. Your boyfriend found YOU. YOU did not find your boyfriend.

A still profile as a male may warrant a message if you're super attractive, but unless a male makes the effort they really aren't going to achieve anything.

A female will more than likely always be discovered by more males, and females too if they go that way.

You said it yourself, though. He found you, so your argument is invalid, to an extent. Sorrynotsorry.

I been on alot of dating sites before, I been used by men saying they love me toooo soon & ask to marry me, so they would have a mom for their children. I'm talking to this guy, he love Bryan Adams. He already asked me out.

Congrats, and good luck.

Careful of the dudes who do unsolicited dick pics. People are f*****g weird as hell.

I never denied its more common guys initiate messages, just that its not impossible for guys to find relationships on dating sites of course they have to send messeges, and women in general don't get 400+ messeges a day. That seems like an exaggeration based on my experience as well as the OPs thus far. Not to mention this is an autism forum, most females here probably have some kind of autism and thus also have more difficulty dating/finding relationships than neurotypical females thus probably less messages than them.

So pretty sure I got your point, just didn't find it entirely accurate.

And yes its a good idea for guys to send out messages to females they're interested in on dating sites, as currently its not as common for females to initiate it. I sent out some messages and didn't get any responses for any I sent, so I was left with responding to ones I did get. Not sure what argument of mine you are calling invalid.

Okcuoid has data to show on average women receive tons of messages.

Anyways as a poor ugly guy I am really limited in women I am allowed to message.

Even the ones who liked me via the quick match function don't reply which just seems to further point to them all being mistake likes.

It's really annoying as they keep emailing me matches. On a personality, common interests and feelings on issues and morality I match up to a lot of women. But those things don't matter as much it seems.

You are not ugly! You are a handsome guy!!

Why don't you date each other...?

Space Warrior, are you shipping?
I've never tried dating sites and I'm glad that I haven't.

Telling someone who believes they're ugly that they're not doesn't really change their perception. Trust me, I know.