Dating Profile Critique

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Well since we've had a couple of posts asking about OKCupid profiles I figured I'd lay mine out for inspection.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Midgard498

Here's my two cents:

1.) Your profile comes across somewhat negative and antagonistic. Take out the entire paragraph about the Bible belt and not having anything to do on weekends - it doesn't add anything to your profile and sounds like complaining. Also, the bit about being a geek is fine, but don't say "if you don't like it then move along". That is too negative.

2.) More/better pictures. A picture indoors sitting at a computer is practically a death sentence in online dating - try to take a picture of you doing something. Outdoors pictures are always good because the lighting/scenery is typically better, and if you have any pictures with one of your hobbies then use those! A picture says a thousand words, so it isn't only used to convey what you look like, but something about you as well.

Overall your profile looks good, aside from the two points above. For further refinement you could add a bit more detail about some of your interests, your job, or your personality.

I guess you have edited it since that last post. It looks good to me, honestly. You sound like a fun guy to hang out with. I like video games and table top games too... I'm not a woman though so that's about as much as I can say about that.

The only thing I think women might find odd is your age range of 20-40. Being in your mid 30s you would probably be best off with somebody who matches you in terms of emotional maturity in their 30s. Having said that, if, like me, you are a particularly immature person, somebody in their mid to late 20s may not be a bad way to go.

Your profile picture also strikes me a bit strange. It's really boring. You're just kind of sitting there staring dead on into the camera. Maybe you could get somebody else to take a picture of you that's on a bit of an angle where you're smiling. I'd also try to work some volume into your hair for said picture. Women dig hair.

HTH.

Yeah the funny thing is that while physically I'm 35, mentally and emotionally I'm more along the lines of early to mid 20s. It goes in line with having aspie traits and just not having any good therapy available for most of my life. There's also the fact that there just aren't enough people in my age range anywhere near me that really share my interests. As far as the hair I've usually got it longer and in fact have to go in for a hair cut soon.

Pictures have been a problem too since my hobbies usually involve me at home or doing something on my own. There aren't too many roleplayers around here for example. The best pictures I usally have are close ups since I sometimes end up taking selfies with the dogs and kittens I play with at the Humane Society.

My advice of course is to leave that waste of time site but I am assuming you are planning on staying. If so, the only thing that comes to mind is that it is boring and does nothing to stand out and tell someone who you are. You probably think the 'geek' and 'gallows humour' lines are original but they are grossly overused lines. There's nothing bad about your profile but you have to be nearly perfect on a site like OKCupid to get attention.

I think online dating in general is a waste of time. I found someone truly special online but her profile told me we had nothing in common and she was also outside my age parameters. Love is a funny thing!

I'd fix the typos, especially in your opening paragraph. Should be "I'm here".
Second paragraph, remove the "to" after "into".
Fourth paragraph, "interested" not "interesting".