aspies are not virgins

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I noticed alot of people here complaining about being virgins or having trouble with girls. This is not the stereotype for aspies in my opinon. I think its just heavy here cause its a forum. I mean most NT guys on forums are virgins too. You need to find other autistic girls so you can talk with them and they will think you are cool for the stuff you are saying instead of not understanding. Or having a girl you dont have to find the right words to talk to, a girl like you that doesnt need to talk about everything anyway. Aspies and NT's are not meant to be together really. Maybe instead of thinking what problems you have with NTs and if you all start talking more to each other...

It's not that easy to find an autistic woman, at least a high-functioning one. Many of them are able to hide it better than males are. You're making it sound like it's incredibly easy to do, which is kind of insulting.

I think a lot more autistic women than you guys realise are members of or at least read these forums, but don't often comment or don't comment at all because they feel left out and discouraged by the things men say about women here (they are often talking about NT women, but all women get lumped together in those kind of complaints). Perhaps if an effort was made to make these forums more welcoming to autistic women by shit-talking about women in general less would make a difference and more autistic women would participate more actively in the forums and it would be easier to find autistic women to talk to that way.

For a moment, i forgot you said you were female and thoughg "wow! This guy sees things several guys here don't!"

The "all women are"... Changed to " some women are" makes a huge difference. Especially for those of us who take things literally.

This is true by diagnostic label, but we're out there... Look for the girls struggling with things a lot more than the other girls, the quirky girls, the girls in jeans not all done up fancy, the girl at a party who goes to the back room where there's a book or guitar, or the girl that you see around with animals but never with many people, and you might find us.

We do seem to hide it better..learn the rules we're supposed to follow and try to do so; but it remains an unnatural act..as such, we'll typically be drawn to the quirky guys who can immediately converse about something beyond inane trivialities...or are also clearly uncomfortable initially conversing at all.

I do agree though that it's not oh so easy. Dating for everyone is hard. Finding a small percentage of people with which you'll bond, within an even smaller subset, is even more difficult. Adding in inherent reclusive tendencies for both sides (the one for you may be at home most of the time..just like you), plus the fact that the females are often better able to be hidden in the mix, makes it a bit of a needle in a haystack.

Just don't think that Autistic girls are heaven because there's no guarantee that it will go any better than with a NT girl.

No, it's very easy. Just use the eye contact peculiarity (neurodiverse people look more at people they like).

Are you trying to say that you can not be a virgin if you're an Aspie?Says who? Why not?

I'm a Spectrum Wolfman who's married to an NT and who has mostly dated NTs.

There's just not as much female aspies here as one might think and if they are, like wilburforce said, they might be discouraged/driven away.

Anyway, it also depends on your geographical location.

As an Australian WP user I've noticed Australian males AND females are rare here in general.

Under 18's/teens are also a bit less common than other demographics - they're here, just not common.

If you're talking about users on this sight, it's already hard for me to find ANY Australian here on WP, let alone a female one. In fact, the only two Australian women I saw on WP were a 43 year old woman and 20-something. I've also only seen two other Aussie males, both 20-somethings.

If you're in the U.S or most of Europe, you're lucky.

Anyway, my only option is real-life, and I've only ever met one aspie female in my entire life.

Yeah yeah, you could say I might come across them in public without realizing, but when I say I've only met one, I mean I've only met one I had the opportunity to get to know better (through school).

Other than that, nothing ever comes up. Not even on the internet, apparently...

You could try to find an Aspie women in the US who may be willing to relocate or you could be willing to relocate to the US.
I met my 2nd girlfriend & current girlfriend on here & I relocated from Louisiana to Vermont to be with my current girlfriend.

I dated an Aspie woman. She was stupid. I dumped her.

My relationship with her was dull, compared to an NT I've been with. Will I try again if that course of fate takes action? Sure, but if she's a dumbass I will leave her too.

Aspie or no Aspie. Not in for the long haul of typical BS, as that comes from both sides.

All lonely aspie men need to stop posting on wp or better yet just leave. It's only for women aspie and married aspie men's problems.

lol, bye Sly! Buh bye.

This Site is for all who seek to improve the lot of those with autism.

I actually assumed women were here in equal numbers for vets anyways.

I don't think anyone is saying that all aspies are virgins. I don't even think it endemic to the condition. I'm still a virgin because of nurtured emotional issues, not because I was born with my particular personality.