So very confused

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Hello.
I'm 31 and I was diagnosed with aspergers in 2002. I've had little luck with women but found the love of my life 4 years ago.
I also have a very low libido and she is the polar opposite. This hasn't dampened our relationship at all but she is a very sensual person and I have a difficult time differentiating when she's just being flirty or wants more.
I've done my best to figure it out but it all feels the same and I can't but feel helpless and pressured even when I know she isn't trying to. The past few weeks I have been getting upset with her and myself and I know that's wrong. I just don't know how to stop the..... confusion and the bad moods this has been creating in me.
I love the fact that she wants to touch and hold me. She's the only person I've ever felt comfortable with doing so.
I've become afraid that if I can't stop myself from these conflicting feelings I'm going to hurt her emotionally and that terrifies me.
Can anyone help?

Hi, that is great that you found the love of your life. Does she know much about Asperger's and how it affects you? Have you tried having a chat with her about what is bothering you?

When was the last time you had a checkup? Low iron, thyroid issues or many other physical ailments may be causing your low libido.