The OKC algorithms make no sense?....(men & women)

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This is a question for all genders who have ever tried OKC

Ok, so I signed up.

Am asexual.

Answered only the sex questions - hoping to find an asexual match

What happens?

The matches are nowhere near asexual. For example, just clicked onto a 74% match on the sex questions. But what does the personality say? "More Sex Driven".

The rest are nudist, polyamorous, or .... looking for sex.

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Another thing curious is that, I'm a weirdo. My question answers net mostly enemies. (For example, close to 100% sloppy)

So what I did was clear any answers in which most of the population would answer in the same way. Only answered questions that are important and hoping to find someone similar. (For example, have mental illness)

What are the match results?? Either there are no results at all, or Alpha-looking ppl who have a zillion interests and are passionate about everything.

I am clearly abnormal. Why am I only getting matches who don't look terribly pathological based on their profiles??

The truth is, Im a depressed, lonely, anxious, less than confident Aspie. Can't find anyone like this, no matter which questions I choose to answer.

I hope this post is not offensive to anybody.

Am just frustrated that I can't find other Aspies with limited interests and sex drive.

(Unless, they are somehow hiding under sparkling profiles)

So this question is for all genders, have you tried OKC; if so, have you found it easy to find people with similar interests / personality?

I tried OKC for abit. I'm a Secular Humanist & I kept getting high matches with very religious women cuz I have some conservative moral values like not really into drinking alcohol, don't do drugs & I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum. I also got high matches with party country girls; girls who like ridding 4weelers, going hunting, going fishing, & football; & I'm not into any of that stuff.

With my first OkC account, I answered ALL of the questions (apart from the silly ones I had to skip). I think I met up with most of my highest matches, and got along with them. My ex, who so far has been the person I've been the most compatible with, later joined the site and he became my top, 99% match. So I think it works well for me, yeah.

Answering only the sex questions, or only the "important to you" questions, seems not the best way to find people who are all round similar to you. Have you tried just answering lots and lots of questions of different types? From that, check out the way your top matches have answered the sex questions (or check their profile text) to find asexuals. That would be my advice.

You can specify your search result by going to the last tab, entering a keyword and seeing if there are any members of that keyword. I'm pretty sure there is one for Asexual. Best of luck!

I did try answering lots of questions of different types initially, but the matches I got were so intimidating, like out of league-intimidating. They have huge career success and are into a bazillion things, active social life, and was wondering why I was getting these types of matches by answering a lot of questions.

Then, I examined the questions I was answering more closely, like to paraphrase Which is more important to you, sex or love? (I put love) ... and realized that probably at least 75% of the population would answer the same way.

Even something that seems more specific, like Do you find smoking disgusting? - it's a 50-50 proposition. Extroverts (my opposite personality type) could answer either Yes or No.

And found that if I answered 10 of these (most of the population would say Yes or No) questions, then I'm getting 95% matches with people whom I really have nothing in common with, besides the vanilla question answers.

I suppose answering lots of different questions is a superior alternative to the last thing I tried, which was to answer only the outlier questions (like Do you have a mental illness Answer: Severe). For some inexplicable reason, very few matches turned up at all, in any location.

Ok, I will try searching keyword Asexual

Thanks everyone for the input!

p.s. The same thing is happening to me too, getting opposite matches based on no illegal drug use/no alcohol

If you want to restrict your options on OKC you have to use the advanced search filter settings to specify things like race, religion, sexual preference, and interests.

Though that also excludes anyone who hasn't specified an option. So it's good for finding some of those who are certain types, but it won't find them all.

I can't bad mouth OK Cupid too much as I met my wife through that site. That being said, we don't have similar interests or a similar personality at all, but that's not a bad thing, I'd personally rather have someone a little different to myself as I feel it makes things a bit more interesting. I never found the "matching" part of the site useful at all, the matches they come up with seem completely random, the advanced search function is fairly useful though.
Most people in general have to sift through a lot of profiles before they find someone they are really interested in, most profiles they view will be discounted because they don't find the person attractive, don't share the same interests or have the same kind of lifestyle, etc. Being that you identify as asexual, you are going to have an even tougher time finding a match there as very few people on the site will identify as asexual also, then on top of that, once you find some people who are also asexual, you will have to filter through the ones who you aren't interested in because of attraction, interests, lifestyle, etc, and all of that's before you even get the chance to talk to someone to see if you even "connect" with them.
Best of luck to you, hopefully you will find someone.