It doesn't sound like you have too much of a problem though.
I can relate.
I'm a confident guy who can talk to girls and that, but there's plenty times where I have trouble with it.
Still, this didn't stop me from getting 2 girlfriends, which would have been 3. There was one girl who liked me, and I liked her back, I knew as soon as she first talked to me but once I developed feelings back I felt how you feel.
I felt nervous and 'maybe she's just being friendly'. I was still 75% sure she liked me and was going to ask her out soon but out of nowhere she had to leave town.
No, I don't think guys should always have to make the first move, but it seems most women don't so you'll have to if you want a relationship. It's very likely this will be the case.
But anyway you've had four girlfriends OP, so you're already clearly doing pretty well!
Do you still want help though on how to get rid of those nervous feelings of asking a female out?
Well, that's perfectly normal to feel that way. And even if you think males are supposed to ask females out, that doesn't necessarily mean we do it because we like to or want to, and i'd say many in fact don't because being nervous about rejection can make it hard.
But yes I have this problem too, and also feel nervous about even trying because I feel like I'll fail.
Well what I do is, I will only approach and/or ask females out if it's mutual from the very beginning from now on.
I don't want to have to 'impress' a woman or 'earn' her attention if I see someone I'm attracted to and try and approach them.
If it's not mutual then I simply won't approach, if it appears that it is, then I will.
29 Jan 2016, 6:37 pm
