How do I know if this boy likes me?

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Ok. Here's the thing. Last year, I was in a theatrical play where another boy and I played a couple. The fictional story was interrupted by the cops, so the audience doesn't know how it ends. While we were rehearsing, the boy suggested that, later in the play, the audience could discover that the girl (i.e. me) was pregnant, and that would be the conflict between the characters. I found it was funny and replied it was a good idea.
Last month, I was in class and he came randomly, held me by the waist and asked: 'How's our child?' To which I laughed. Some moments later, I started feeling something weird and began to think maybe he feels something for me. I had never thought of him that way, but maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to find out if he likes me and talk to him. Some days ago, he repeated more or less the same actions, and I felt really comfortable.
What do you think? Does this mean he likes me, or does it just mean he's a really nice guy?
And, if you think he likes me, should I talk to him through whatsapp, given that he's not in my class? Or would it be really weird to text him out of nowhere?

Ask him!

I'd try making a joke back and saying something like, "I don't know. Maybe we should go on a date so you can help me figure that out."

(That is, if you want to go out on a date. And, yes, I tend to be a bit forward.)

Hahahaha!! ! Interesting answer!! !

LOL, I can picture myself from a decade ago being given this line and still being totally oblivious since she didn't specifically ask for a date. Yes, I was that clueless. Still, that's a great line to use.

Yep...it's pretty clever!

So, from what I've been reading from your replies (thank you all, by the way), I have another question. Do I have problems finding out if he likes me because I'm on the spectrum or would a NT girl have the same problem?

If 25 is your actual age, I'm pretty sure most people would know by then if a guy/girl likes them. BUT, maybe not. You wouldn't know the answer to this unless you asked an NT girl if she always knows if a boy likes her. You could always ask someone who was in the room later on if they think he likes you. BUT, that might be really awkward, esp. if they think you should already know the answer.

In the end, who cares? My method is to "test the door-knob." If it turns, open the door and see what's behind it. If it doesn't turn, no harm done. That is why I mentioned my joking answer...it is a bit of a knob-turning thing. It's a bit of bait. Will he bite? If yes, he's interested. If not, it was sort-of a joke and you don't have to worry about looking stupid.

To me, "Maybe we should go out on a date so that X" would fit the pattern of something which is so obviously not going to be done as to be a reliable cue that the sentence as a whole is a joke. It'd be a jocular way to say X isn't going to happen, because it'd demand ridiculous measures noöne in their right mind would take.

Last edited by Spiderpig on 03 Feb 2016, 3:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Nerdygirl! ... My-my-my...

So, what? You just reach out and give it a twist? And here I thought that I was the outrageous here on of the Forums.

Also, how exactly would you turn that into a joke? And after grabbing and twisting it, how do you walk away without looking stupid?

This reminds me of a character from a Spanish sitcom called Aída!
Thank you for your advice!!

I'm imagining the situation like in a sitcom:
Me: -I don't know. Maybe we should go on a date so you can help me figure that out.
Boy: -(Laughs) You're so funny!!
Me: -Uhhhm... Yeah, sure, I'm so funny! (I laugh)

No. I don't think I'm doing this!

I'm speaking metaphorically. Are you? There is nothing literal to turn. Maybe something is lost in translation in writing?

Yeah, can't say the above is not a possibility.
But even if you feel uncomfortable, the other person thinks you are funny so you get away with it.
You don't look stupid in THEIR eyes.
Like I said, I tend to be a bit forward.
I've had situations very much like these go in both directions.
I've gotten a laugh (and felt dumb though I didn't *look* dumb.)
And I've gotten dates.
Could go either way.
That's why it is a test/bait/turning a door-knob thing. Whatever you want to call it.
Every try involves risk. That's just the way it is.

I've always wanted to try this one myself:

Though, since you mentioned a Spanish sitcom and things being lost in translation, if you're speaking to him primarily in Spanish I don't know if the above translates well...

Also, I'd be willing to bet he does like you and that is his attempt at flirting.

It's all weird, anyway. Today, I said hello to him, and he just didn't reply and said something non related, and he wasn't looking at me, so I don't even know if he was saying that to me, to the girl behind me or to both of us...

Ok, thank you for actually trying to answer my question!! ! Now, I feel more disposed to try talking to him and see how he acts.
P.S: I loved your Hershey's joke!!