Chest Hair (A men topic)

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Inspired from the thread: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=304890

Standards for chest hair in men is very confusing, I really think it would be easier if there was a kind of consensus among women when it comes to chest hair, a standard norm imposed on men regarding chest hair like the imposed standard of shaved legs in women or the back hair for men (polls shows that more than 90% prefer no back hair on men, so yeah, all men should remove back hair).

You would probably think this is crazy, and that this is a blessing for men to choose what to do with body hair; but it is not, let me explain.

I have a naturally hairy chest, the thing I have experienced is many opinions:
-Some women find it extremely sexy, some even found it the most turning on thing for them.
-Some women find it extremely gross, totally repelling and want to remove it off me right away.
-Some women are indifferent but those were rare.
-Some women even find shaved chest gross! "Too childish", they said.
-It's impossible to know what's too much hair, because they differ....

Now, this make things confusing, it is not really a 'blessing' - because there's nothing more disheartening than someone wanting to make love with you, and after removing enough clothes off you...they find you repelling because of a physical trait you have. And worse they make ultimatum out of if it.

It would be a lot easier if 99% of women in the word say "we want no chest hair" or the opposite, at least I would know what social norm to adopt, what better option to choose - men won't die if they routinize hair chest removal I believe.

How do you deal with your chest (if you have any)? Which was better for your overall attractiveness in general?

Ok, I am not a guy but am married to a guy with a hairy chest. Not sasquatch hairy, but hairy. I would find it really weird if he shaved or waxed it.

He occasionally shaves the hair off his arms where he has tattoos which is sort of a non-issue for me.

I like the chest hair. If he had a naturally bare chest, that would be fine too. But I would say as a woman, natural is better.

Just my 2 cents.

My girlfriend prefers no chest hair on a guy but it's not a strong preference. I'm on meds that reduce my body hair(I don't like having a lot of hair & for a couple other reasons) & I have no chest & no back hair as a result.

The choice simply means you have the freedom to exercise whatever option YOU want. If you do get a partner and they want you to grow/shave your body hair, you can negotiate. I seriously doubt a girl would reject a guy solely on how hairy their body is, unless it was a big deal to them, and they were given reason to believe there is no room for flexibility.

It's the same sort of thing with beards. Some girls like beards whilst others don't. In the past, we've been a relatively shaven society, but with the insurgence of beards lately, you'd get pretty mixed results if you asked women their preference now.

tl;dr: Do what you want with your body hair, just as you would with your head hair.

I'm afraid the same double standard applies to shirts, not that it really concerns me. I guess I'd get heatstroke pretty easily if I had a lot of chest hair, I'm somewhere in the middle.

TBH I don't really understand any western standards whatsoever, I just live here. Canonically people stateside are obsessed with the terrifying prospect of bikini wax, I think the fad came along with fake tans.

The cultural trends of the time or period reflect what is universally attractive, there will always be a degree of preference over the conventional norms as trends are always changing. Key stimulus plays a large role in what draws our attraction and it isn't always visual, kinetic attraction can be as powerful as visual attraction.

When I was younger, I found chest hair on guys rather gross. Then I fell in love with a guy with a hairy chest and we got married. Now, I think "no big deal." I, myself, generally go natural. I don't die my hair or wear make-up. (I do shave my legs and armpits because it makes me feel better.) I would find it weird if my husband removed his chest hair. I agree that natural is better!

I'd say do what makes YOU feel good and attractive. If YOU like having a hairy chest, keep it. If YOU like removing it, do so. Then find a woman who takes you the way YOU want to be.

If you don't *want* to work on hair removal all the time, it's going to get real old real fast to do so just to please a woman. Unless you go for more expensive options, you're going to have to go through a time consuming chore often. What's worse than a bare or hairy chest? A stubbly chest.

Im a rather hairy man myself, so much so that sometimes i have to shave to cool down. Its a real pain in summer. Lately ive taken to shaving my chest and back often cause i find i just get way too hot.

I just wish more of it would go on my head haha, going bald.

Hmmm i think it makes me more attractive, certainly i feel more sporty being cooler. In terms of what women like thats really up to the woman. Most women are different in their preferences. Some will like a man not having hair some wont. Like many men i do things for practical reasons couldn't really care less about how attractive or not it makes me look, a side bonus perhaps?

I wax from head to toe.

Before I started waxing, I was a bit intimidated by the thought of it, so a friend suggested that the epilator might be a better idea. So we went to her house and she introduced me to her epilator. It took her almost three hours to pluck all the hairs from my body, the pain that thing inflicted upon me was unlike any other that I'd ever endured before or since. Now I've been stabbed, and even shot (at point blank range), but neither of those can compare to pain wrought by epilator, it is a cruel device that knows no mercy or remorse. Avoid it at all costs...

Every waxing session I've had since that day has been a breeze, and my ball sack was just as smooth with waxing as it was after the epilator rolled over it.

I have a few patches of hair on my chest but am primarily naturally hairless on my upper torso save for my armpits.

If I had back hair I'd remove it immediately. Luckily I do not. My wife would force me to remove it. I would willingly because she is exceptionally good at taking care of her body hair, which on a woman is very, very unappealing for me. She'd be ok with chest hair as long as it wasn't too beastly. I probably wouldn't like it.

I do practice fairly diligent pubic hair maintenance however because that is out of hand if I do not.

I do enjoy my big scraggly beard however. And so does my wife.

Sounds brutal! A tool for barbarian skin piercing monsters lol.

I do nothing with my chest (or back) hair.

I have never dated nor hooked up with anyone who expressed an aversion to it/desire for me to shave it (male or female).

Brah, all you need is to be in the middle. Have a little bit of chest hair where it's not clearly visible but not have too much. You know what i'm sayin?

Epilators are medieval torture devices.

My sisters Epilator got stuck and should couldn't get it off, she had to call for help. I think she has shaved ever since.

Boo have you though about shaving just on one side? So you can have the best of both worlds. You just have to show the "right" side

Probably not going to happen since females don't have a Uni-Mind, therefore we have different preferences. I'd say no chest hair would look terribly unnatural and yes too childish. Not sure where this trend of 'guys shouldn't have any back hair' is coming from either...I guess women who like to feel as if they are sleeping next to dolphin or something.

[quote="Sweetleaf I'd say no chest hair would look terribly unnatural and yes too childish. Not sure where this trend of 'guys shouldn't have any back hair' is coming from either...I guess women who like to feel as if they are sleeping next to dolphin or something.[/quote]

Ha, ha, the dolphin thing made me laugh. I think natural is better on a guy--since most guys do have chest and/or back hair to some degree, I agree with the too childish thing too.

to the OP--I think you may be overthinking this. Unless you have a drastic hair issue that makes you uncomfortable, I would think that a woman who is too picky to sleep with you until you wax, may be a woman who is not worth your time. You should be comfortable in your own skin, aside from what any woman thinks. Whatever you do or don't do to your body hair that achieves this result.

Being a female, in the U.S., I would feel weird to not shave my legs and underarms. So I do that. I like to dye my hair occasionally, so I do that. But I don't do it for a man; I do it because I like the color. Make sense?