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I notice, in love and dating specifically; as I am a lonely person. that most posts are either depressed virgin males with obsessions in sex. overly narcissistic males who can't get "get girls to leave them alone" and supposed HIGH sex drives. personally. I find it sad, not because I consider it pathetic or anything. it's rather... why? why complain about it online? does it make it any better that your online friends tell you everything is going to be ok? give you a cookie? pat you on the head? I have always considered online isn't a place to air dirty laundry. However I realize everyone has their own rights. I just get tired of watching it; you aren't the only ones suffering. I can even explain this to you in the best way I can do this. the easiest way to as a lot of men seem to say "get" girls. GO OUT; I don't mean outside and play with sports, I don't mean go shopping. I mean go do something FUN for YOU. and here is an interesting factoid; you are BOUND to talk to someone while doing what you enjoy. THAT is how that works. I know it sounds bad coming from me; the single virgin nobody; but while I have a high sex drive and would love to have sex. I realized long ago one key aspect about women. this may come across as shocking, but bear with me... SEX ISN'T EVERYTHING. I know, to us men with high sex drives it can seem like the only thing, but there is such a thing as consideration. how do you think it makes the girls FEEL? especially on these forums! every day I see a different post. "I give up" "why are women better" "why can't I do ____". and that is all good and dandy, if this were a guys only forum. IT ISN'T. it's true girls are all different, some may grab popcorn and laugh at our sorry asses. others probably try to help; thinking you will change your ways (laughable). but at the end of the day; they share one trait, disgust. even the ones who find it funny.


Look... all I am trying to say is, even if your super sexman the great virgin of the lost sea, or you apparantly can't beat girls away with a stick. be considerate of others.

I hope I don't come across to you as one of those 'overly-narcissitic' males to you, though I accept if this may be what you think of me.

And, yes, I see so much negativity in this forum, and as much as I join in on it, with me complaining about the type of women I'm interested in not being interested in me and getting too much attention from those I'm not, the negativity has still nonetheless taken a toll on my mental state as well.

It's disheartening to read so much negativity and failure among us, but I agree with you that the worst thing about it is not the lack of success, but the somewhat sad attitude many of us may hold.

That's not to say I don't empathize, nor to discredit the problems and issues they are going through as well, just that those of us who may continue posting negative things and don't seemingly working on changing our attitudes about it, may instead annoy or disgust us.

And, unfortunate to me I guess, but I disagree with that advice. In principle, I do, but onCe we get specific, it is also a fact some interests will automatically ensure more social interaction than others, and some are less common than others, and finally that some have a low amount of the opposite sex compared to males.

If my one and only interest is programming and coding, it might be reasonably difficult to meet anyone of the same interest, especially women, if only they seek them out.

Your advice to me, implies to me the only effort is 'doing what you love', but I find that to only be a part of the equation. Maybe I'm just overthinking it.

Anyway, I could even go on to say as much as we suffer, there's people in some poor African country who can't even get food/electricity/etc. on top of being alone, but I've always found those kind of comparisons to be extremely unfair.